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I am obsessing/fixating on negative 'incidents' and neighbours

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jaserich68
jaserich68

I know I have periodic anxiety (diagnosed), but the last couple of months I have been fixating on neighbours' kids, specifically anti social behaviours that aren't actually there! A couple of new families moved in, and their kids are pretty much like most kids (noisy/a bit too loud in the street after dark etc). One kid has done a couple of minor things and frankly he doesn't have any boundaries (5 or 6 neighbours have had problems with him swearing at them etc), but i'm at the stage I'm imagining getting back to my house and the windows have been through or one of the cars vandalised, i'm also imagining scenarios of the full aftermath including police involvment/punch ups etc, if one or more of the kids are outside I rush to the window to check they're not doing things to my car, if they run up the lane at the side of my house I rush to the back of the house to check they're not climbing over my walls or throwing things into my garden, I get worse if there's a kid I don't know turns up (those very very rarely return either) I also picture in my mind them threatening or causing harm to my own kids.

?Do you get where i'm coming from? I know it's ludicrous because apart from that one kid being a rude one who's parents just leave him do what he wants, there hasn't really been anything that's happened. I can't get out of the habit of creating these scenarios! It is now so bad I have actually persuaded my family to move house. Is this obsessional thought process anxiety linked? Because it seems to be a vicious circle of actually giving myself anxiety with these thoughts!

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  • PokemonPokie
    PokemonPokie jaserich68

    Posted

    CALM DOWN

    DEEP BREATHS

    It's just all in your mind.

    It's not really real.

    Do your Breathing exercises and focus your mind on positives.

    • jaserich68
      jaserich68 PokemonPokie

      Posted

      Easier said than done, despite the fact I work in a tenancy support job and know that even if something did happen I only need to phone police/housing dept etc (even there i'm still talking about police involvement!), I can't get out of the habit.

      ?I sincerely appreciate your reply and I'll have a crack at it smile I'm going to have to break this habit somehow.  

  • phil76209
    phil76209 jaserich68

    Posted

    You're obviously worried about things getting damaged and the possibility of having to face the parents if something does happen.

    Are you facing this burden alone or do you have anyone else to share this with.

  • jaserich68
    jaserich68

    Posted

    Cheers for the replies smile It's still hard and there are still some minor (and I mean minor) things like kids being a bit too noisy in the evening but nothing actually happens to my house/property or kids!, and i'm starting to accept the scenarios I cook up are 99% unlikely to happen.

    ?It's horrendous having anxiety and making it worse thinking of things that aren't actually happening.

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