I can't seem to get good help for my anal fissure problem...

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I'm suffering extremely from this. Just over a year ago, I passed an obnoxiously large poo that ripped me in two places, at least that's all the doctor could see when I got it looked at. I was told to just change my diet and take stool softeners

So I tried this. Never worked tho clearly as I continued to dread potty time every day for a year. Just a month ago, I got ecoli and it actually cured my fissure, or at least I thought it did. The side effect gave me tiny soft stools for two weeks and I stopped feeling pain

Then just two days ago I passed a slightly harder stool than normal and I'm back to excruciating pain, it hurts to pass gas and even the feeling of the gas pushing on the inside hurts and makes me cringe. I cried over it because I finally thought I was back to being a normal person

I could really use some advice from someone who's actually had this before. I've been to a doctor three times to have it looked at and they've always said the same thing, change diet and use softeners rolleyes

A note to mention. For some reason my body seems to only be ready to pass stool when it's literally too big. I don't feel the urge to use the bathroom every day and when I do it's like it's all jammed together in one huge long stool. No idea what to do about that either

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    Hello MellyBelly

    i was just the same as you are. My dr told me my anus has two rippings. I used to have lactulose, drink cold milk, etc. I have taken stuff to relieve my constant constipation until it is no more use. Wherever I sit p, I get pained. I even bought a 'donut' pillow to sit on. Whenever I get constipated, I can feel sth like a small piece of meat peeping out of my anus. So it was more than enough to me.  my final decision was to do the surgery. Had any of your consultors recommend you a surgery?!

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    Hi, MellyBelly,   I feel your pain.  Are you taking prescription pain medication?  If yes, stop! That will cause more problems as it will bind you so badly you can’t  have a normal BM.   Supplement  fiber products  also can bulk a person up, it may work for some people but not all.  Drink a lot of water.

    Do you eat cheese?  If yes, stop. That will cause your stool to bind.

    I suggest you try this:   Before bedtime, take two stool softeners  the  stimulant-free kind.   

    For breakfast,  have a bowl of oatmeal or a cereal you enjoy and add a lot of fruit to it.    Stay away from too much bulk food for a while.  Don’t  eat pizza or too much pasta.   It is all about what we eat that will make a difference.

    Eat several small meals a day instead of big meals to prevent the bulk.   Eat more salad and healthy foods.   I’m writing this because I suffered for 5 years with fissures and know what agony it is.   I had surgery two years ago and am now  pain free but I take good care of myself so I never suffer with that problem again.

    If you really get desperate when having a BM try this:   Buy a fleet enema, do not use what’s in it.  Empty the bottle, then fill it with warm water and insert it gently just a little and squeeze that should help you to eliminate more easily. 

    Best wishes to you.


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    Hi I suffered 9 years, I tore myself after the birth of my second baby. I had two bad tears. Read all the comments on this forum. They really helped me. I had the surgery 16 months ago now and I am finally healed totally. My pain level was excruciating during bm and for hours after sometimes. My advice, drink 3 litres of water a day, no dark meat or dairy if you can. Get as much exercise as you can and plenty of veg! Take lactulose at night , two teaspoons. Keep this routine up. Then your body will get use to having regular bm, if after all this and still no better ask to be referred to hospital. I begged my doctor as I had it for 9 years of suffering this. I'm finally off all medication now but still have a little tenderness at times. The cream calmoseptine you can buy over Amazon really helped the soreness xxxx

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      Hello Claire, I have just done my surgery 3 weeks ago. The pain comes and goes. I pray God every day I don't get constipated the following day cuz that's the hardest part. May I ask How long does it take you to heal completely and feel no pain during your bm?

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      Hi I think everyone is different hon but I had a terrible time after my op that it got infected. The pain was even worse !! Make sure you stay on lactulose / movicol/ fibogel . The hospital wanted me to stop but I still didn't feel ready after 3 months I kept on it for my own sanity really. It has only just really healed , for me around 11months after. That does seem a long time but I had chronic tears in more than 1 place. The fissure pain got less over time. I now take no medicine at all just make sure I drink loads and eat plenty of salad and a orange everyday xxxxx I swear by an orange at night. Finally I'm free !!!!! Never give up hope, some people take longer than others to heal. Some straight away but for me it was ages xxx

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      Thank you hon. I feel u have been always having faith. And that's the most important thing. Hope you are getting better everyday. It is good you stopped depending on any softeners so your colon would start doing its work by its own. Good luck for you too 

  • Posted

    Hello dear melly. I have been through this for 2 years. please listen to me.if it's possible for you do the surgery. you will heal you completely. believe me.

    I hope you will get better.

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    1.   Drink lots of water, all day long.  One guy on this site recommended 3 ltrs/day.

    2.   Get a very firm pad to sit on that has a u shaped tailbone cut out.  It's all about blood flow to the area for healing.

    3.  My real healing began when I prayed this prayer:  Jesus, I know that it is your power and presence that heals.  I plead your blood, Jesus, over my fissure and all surrounding tissue.  I praise you now for my complete healing and give you the credit.  Amen.

    80 percent of my pain has gone away, glory be to God!

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    Thank you everyone for the replies so far

    I got me a 32 ounce jug with a large straw and have been following the advice of drinking a huge amount of water.

    My previous diet contained a lot of sweets and sugary things like soda and little water on a daily basis. I have an eating disorder that causes me to not feel hunger or any desire to eat until I'm about 24 hours starved. So I would constantly snack on things that tasted yummy and had no desire to eat much else

    So my current changes so far since I read the replies have been:

    I cut cold turkey on sweets and soda in my diet for now.

    Currently drinking nothing but water

    And just those small changes I had a bowel movement today that was so much more pleasant. Small soft light brown blobs that decreased my pain level from a near 10 to as low as a 3. Haven't taken any laxatives yet and got that result!! I can't believe what difference drinking a TON of water made.

    The only things unpleasant so far is the poo is a messy situation and I spend more time cleaning up than actually going (a first since I had ecoli) and the frequent bathroom trips I have had to make. But I prefer that over the pain I was in before!

    I really would like to try coconut oil but i can't seem to find any at my local store (I live in a tiny town in Iowa)

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     I am attaching a post that I put on somebody else blog. In this post, I was recommending to the person to get the surgery, as well as other methods to try to try to ease your pain. I hope this helps you out and never give up. :

    I would definately get it done, especially if you have dealt with it for a whole year. I had a chronic fissure, and after a month, decided to have the surgery. It was the best decision of my life. I am not going to lie to you, it is a bit painful right after surgery but if you can endure the pain of a fissure, it is not that much different. I posted this before....this basicallly explains how i felt throughout the surgery and after.

    I first want to give you a lot of credit for deciding to do the surgery...It is not an easy desicion, as there are some stories online that can discourage you from getting it, but in the end in my opinion it it better. 

    So basically, this is how it went down with my surgery. I had to fast the day before the surgery because they had to put me under anesthesia. I went in, waited, and then they put me under and the surgery was done. I woke from the surgery with morphine in my system, although once I woke up it had worn off for the most part. They basically told me I could get another dose of morphine, which would basically knock me out again, or I could stay up and move to the other room to wait until I was ready to leave. So, i skipped the next dose of morphine and went to the other room. As I was laying on the bed, the pain bagan to set in. The next part may scare you a bit and discourage you, but getting through this part is just part of the process of gettting better. So when the pain started to settle in, the paiin almost flt worse then the fissure pain itself. I was not only dealing with the pain from the fissure, but from the incision and cuts that were done form the surgery itself. This being said, you have to take into consideratino that the surgery is cutting into your sphincter muscle, so pain will come, but this is with any surgery. Unfortunately, with this surgery, it is in a very sensitivie area so the pain will be a little more intense. Some things I did in the hospital to deal with the pain was put ice on my butt, I bit down on a washcloth to decrease the tension that I would put into my butt area and to transfer the tension to my jaw biting into the cloth. They did give me percoset, but honestly it didn't help me a bit. I still felt the pain until I was able to fall asleep. The lady next to me said that the percoset made her feel that the ceiling was the floor and the floor was the ceiling, so I guess it affects some people differently than others. I also will recommend listening to music right after or watching a movie to distract yourself from the pain. SO that was basically it from the hospital. I couldn't leave the hospital until I could pee though,  which was not easy since I had so many drugs in my system and could  not really push to hard as it was painful and I did not want to upset the area.

    Eventually I peed and was able to leave. Then, I took some percoset that night and slept. The next day I felt no pain, as I did not poop at all, and as with before the surgery,  the pain  only comes when  you poop. 

    So the day after that I had to go to the bathroom. The first time you go to the bathroom will be very painful, almost more painful than pooping with just the fissure because you are trying to poop through a fissure and a surgery, but that comes with  the territory. I will not hide that I felt like I was going to puke the pain was so bad WHILE pooping. I also recommend listening to music while pooping as this distracts the pain  and gives some motivation  not to be afraid. The reason on put emphasis on the WHILE is beause after the pain is very dull and nothing compared to the throbbing unimaginable  pain of an anal fissure. Within  the next two weeks, I progressively felt myself getting better, and by the 2nd week I went back to the doctor and he gave me the ok that I was all healed up.

    I never had any incontinence, although the only thing I still have is that its a bit harder to hold in my farts sometimes, but that is it....As far as the gauze, I only changed it because I would leak sometimes..I ended up just buying adult diapers at the store and used those until I stopped leaking. 

    As far as numbing injectino you asked about, the only  thing I was aware of was the anastesia I was on.

    As far as food after surgery, I just kept to a well balanced diet. I take metamucil fiber supplement every day since, and I squat on the toilet all the time now. Make sure not to take too much fiber as this can irritate the area.

    Hope this was enough information for you, and I really wish you the best of luck with  your surgery next week.....Noone should  have to go thorugh anything like this, but thank god we have means to take care of it with surgery....

    Also, this is another post i put that explains some things that you might want to try in addition to the surgery....

    I first want to say how sorry I am, and how much we al are that you have to go thorugh this. We have all been through the same type of pain, and can sympathise with your situation. A lot of the problem with an anal fissure is its not jsut a physical problem, but a mental problem as well. Thinking it is getting better and then to be in writihing pain the next day to through your hopes down the drain ruins your day and your hope of getting better. However, since we have all been there, we can probably agree that despite all of the downfalls that can occur, you will get better given time, rest, and proper treatment. 

    Here are some suggestions I have for you to help you through:

    1. Try somee zinc oxide in the form of calmoseptine which has menthol to soothe the area down there as well. Calmoseptine can be bought at almost any local drugstore and can be bought online too.

    2. Try squatting when going on the toilet instead of sitting. This is a much  helathier position and the poop sometimes will just slide out,  no pushing or straining involved.

    3. I would definately take a fiber supplement, specifically metamucil  is what I take evveryday,  in ordr to allow your stools to be soft and to allow them to pass thorugh easily. THis being said, with any fiber supplemetn, you must drink lots of water when using them, or they will not work veffectively. Also, do not take too much as too much fiber can irritate your bowels on the way  out and diarreah actually does worse down there.

    4. I would recommend getting a sphicteronomy surgery if htings dont get better. I waited it out, gave up, had the surgery, and was able to heal within about two weeks. I had a chronic fissure, so I knew where you are ocming from with v all the pain and discomfort.

    5.Try listening to music to distract your mind a bit, especially when going to the bathroom. If you are in writing pain, distract yourself with a movie or TV show right after. Also, to prevent myself from screaming and from putting more stress in the area down  there, i bit down on a washcloth in order to make the tensions with my teeth instead of my sphicter muscle.

    Good Luck!!!



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