I can't talk to my crush because of my anxiety?
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Okay, so this may sound stupid, and that's because it is, but it's become a real problem for me, and don't feel like I can live my life as a "normal" person would until I have overcome this. Due to my anxiety and depression (for 2 years), I find it incredibly hard to talk to people. I have slowly been getting better at talking to people in general, but I still face many challenges when it comes to talking to certain people, especially people I deem "better" than me, which, in this case, includes my crush. It's ruining my life; my inability to talk to certain people, and I feel like I could be missing out on something. I am at uni and the fact that I can't even talk to someone that I KNOW I have things in common with is actually disgusting.
Does anyone have any advice or related personal experiences? Cheers.
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pamela51740 sophalo4f
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Don't ever think people are 'better' then you, this will only get you down. Be proud of yourself for where you are today, a young beautiful intelligent woman, you have your whole life ahead of you, I know anxiety and depression is awful but it can be beaten. I think anyone even without a anxiety disorder would naturally get anxious talking to their crush! I find it hard to talk to people but once you get started into a conversation it comes natural to talk. You will get better and one day you will look back and think what was I worried about! Hope you do well at uni x
sophalo4f pamela51740
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Guest sophalo4f
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Does your anxiety show in different ways as well, if so how? I find it easier to be honest and real with people over text messages maybe that'd work for you too? How do you feel when you're talking with others? Do you get some kind of a panic attack, minor or major? Do you find it really hard to get words out because you're scared of judgement ect.? Your problem isn't stupid, it seems to be bothering you a lot and you have every right to get help no matter what your problem is. No problems are stupid. If you think you won't be able to overcome this by yourself, which is totally okay! then maybe talking with a psychologist/psychriatic or a person you're really comfortable with might help?
Good day xx
sophalo4f Guest
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In any kind of conversation mainly. I always have this monologue going on in my head like, oh that was a stupid thing to say I bet they hate you now etc. etc. So yes I am very scared to say things in case of judgement. I base my entire life's worth on how other people think of me, or what I am worth to them, which I know is wrong, but I can't help it. It is easier over text but I can't just live my life through my phone if that makes sense. I have had panic attacks in the past, but not usually when talking to people, they have been more in crowded situations or emotionally strenuous situations. I have spoken to doctors about my depression/anxiety and they either just prescribe me drugs that don't work or try and give me advice which also doesn't seem to help, but maybe I should continue the search for help.
Thanks xx
Guest sophalo4f
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People focus on themselves, their own appearence and everyone's scared of judement, scared of getting a bad reputation ect., it's human to do so. You might say some things you wish you didn't and regret it for a very long time, thinking they're judging you for it forever, but people forget. The person you're talking with probably won't even question whatever you say as stupid or whatever. It will be forgotten, I'm not saying everything you share will be forgotten but the minor things you think was stupid to say usually will. People tend to focus on themselves, that's just how it is. People who mock you about things you've said, do it to feel better about themselves, don't listen to them, that's their problem not yours.
Good day xx
tyler04178 sophalo4f
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Yeah I've been slowly going blind for nine months. Sucks bad.