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I CANT BELIEVE HOW BAD I FEEL. HELP

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monica76150
monica76150

my life has become a living hell. an endless loop of symptoms with the odd good day thrown in just to tease you with how good life used to be. Right now I'm alternating between horrible bladder symptoms and debilitating nausea for no reason. went through the frozen shoulder, rib and sternum pain, thought I was having heart attack, crippling anxiety, fear of death, fear of travel due to stomach symptoms. THIS is NOT who I was. I was independent, fearless, competent, adventurous, social, funny. now I just pray moment to moment to get by. don't have any interest in anything anymore. lethargic and apathetic when not panicking. have not slept through the night in I cant remember when. just turned 50. have lovely pregnant looking belly and no libido. my friends seem to be sailing through this. im at a loss as to why mine is so severe.

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  • jude84900
    jude84900 monica76150

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    Hi Monica,

    Are you in a area where alternative or holistic doctors are available? Have you considered bio identical hormone replacement? Starting with a good doctor is key to success with the right kind of treatment for you. All those symptoms you described are declining hormones.

  • Guest
    Guest monica76150

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    i could have written that myself! i totally feel your pain, im the exact same way especially being afraid to go anywhere cause of stomach issues & anxiety. This is the 6th time ive tried Zoloft to see if it helps relieve symptoms, im 3 weeks in and all the sudden i have horrible debilitating vertigo, hardcore nausea and loose bowel movements with cramps...and its done nothing for my anxiety, in fact its made me feel even more depressed about my situation....i want this hell over! Every year seems to get worse! Just wanted you to know you arent alone

  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 monica76150

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    hi monica. i feel your pain. i am 48 now and have been on peri for about 5 years. you are not alone. i have developed phobias too. a time when i thought i would be living it up....not so much. i get comfort from coming on here and reading when i am having a bad day. it does help to feel not so alone. I also wonder how other ladies my age seem to be getting on with life. I am sure some of them could be hiding their symptoms. But, when i see them taking trips etc, and I barely have energy to get dressed some days....its just depressing. ((hugs)) hope you feel better knowing you arent alone

  • cindy17746
    cindy17746 monica76150

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    Hi! I came on here tonight because I just finished a third day in a row of being in bed, so sick I feel like I'm dying. I too have terrible sleeps, terrible nausea, stomach troubles, anxiety, etc. The last three days, my muscles have been so weak, I can barely move. So i feel your pain. We can only hope that it gets better!! It has to! This forum helps me cope. No one understands this experience like you ladies, and I feel judged by my female friends who are having an easier time and who think this is all in my head. I hope you get some relief. xo

  • bev27429
    bev27429 monica76150

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    Yes, Monica, it can be absolutely debilitating for some women, myself included. In terms of stats, approximately 20% have mild to no symptoms (my best friend was one of them - lucky her), 60% have moderate symptoms, and 20% have severe and life-altering symptoms.

    It has been horrendous for me both physically and mentally. The mental symptoms have sent me to the edge of what I have been able to cope with. For physical symptoms, I have had bloating, GI issues, dizziness, disorientation, buzzing alternating with numbness throughout my body, and nausea. For the mental symptoms I have experienced extreme irritation / anger / rage, crying bouts, screaming fits, despondency, anxiety, and crippling depression.

    I honestly wonder how I got through some of my days, but I did. I literally had to go breath to breath, moment to moment, and hour to hour, trying my best to cope.

    Like you, prior to this, I was a strong, confident, energetic woman, who was sailing through life.

    Anyone who says that it isn't that bad, like my doctor (who I got rid of), hasn't experienced what we have.

    I am a tough person, believe me, but this absolutely floored me!

    I started noticing symptoms when I turned 47, but they were mild. I turn 52 next week, and the last six months, in particular, have been brutal!

    You have my absolute sympathy and understanding. I wouldn't wish this on anyone!!

    Big hugs,

    Bev xo

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