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I do not know if i am depressed or not

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TheQuestioner
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I am a 15 yr old male who is type 1 diabetic. I frequently go to a children and women's hospital for my regular checkups and during my most recent checkup, today,I was told that I'd have to choose which adult hospital I would like to transfer to by the end of next year.After hearing this, I became really sad. Things that I normally do did not seem to interest me and I did not find humor in anything i previously thought was funny and i kept thinking that this is the end of my childhood and a major part of my life. I do not wish to end my checkups at this hospital but i am given no choice. I am one who does not like change in my life such as leaving a hotel and other simpler things. This however is a big blow as im both graduating next year as well as leaving the hospital. I do not know exactly how i am feeling and i would appreciate any advice given for this scenario of mine

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  • TheQuestioner
    TheQuestioner

    Posted

    Next year signifies the end of both my school and my time at the hospital i've been in since i was 3 .I have been used to these for the past few years and this will be a major change in my life
  • TheQuestioner
    TheQuestioner

    Posted

    I understand that it's a part of growing up and i'l like some advise on how i can cope with it
  • TheQuestioner
    TheQuestioner

    Posted

    My mind is stuck on a loop thinking back on the times i was there, the happiness i had exploring the place. Coming for the checkups ever so often, experiencing growth as the hospital did with upgrades and renovations. And now I have to leave a part of my whole life behind .
    • hypercat
      hypercat TheQuestioner

      Posted

      Hi I know it is scary the thought of growing and becoming an adult but you have to face it unless you want to remain a child for the rest of your life.  Believe me being an adult has many compensations,  not least of which is being in control of your own life and destiny and making your own decisions.  It doesn't happen overnight but in stages which are much easier to deal with and when you get there you will wonder what you were worried about.   Take it one day at a time and you will be fine. 

      Life is change and without it we would stagnate - would you want that?  Learn to get used to change and that is positive thinking.  You have lots of great changes to come in your life many of which will be happy so please don't dread them.  Look forward not back.  x

    • manda08392
      manda08392 hypercat

      Posted

      I agree with hypercat.

      Also, your anxiety of change is normal and will disipate once the change occurs.

      As far as coping, diving right in tends to help relieve anxiety the quickest.

      Start looking at your choice of adult hospitals now by either looking at reviews on doctors or asking adults that you know attend some of them to ask which doctors they like best or which facilities they like best so that you are giving yourself something to look forward to. Speaking of which, do you have plans for after graduation?

    • stevo1975
      stevo1975 TheQuestioner

      Posted

      There are bound to be some very blue feelings with being diabetic, I suggest going to a GP and having a chat to them and just check that things are not clinical like depression etc.? when I was young I also had grave doubts about my future as an adult I didnt do that great at school and that really concerned me and affected my self-esteem, and it took me a while to get that confidence I didn’t have a lot of friends neither so started playing guitar then piano and Bass guitar which eventually having a talent in music kinda made me feel grounded in some circles.

       

      Do you have something you love music, sport or anything? Embrace it! Make sure you enjoy the days of being young as they are very sacred! I’m in my 40’s now and believe the difference between the Stevo now and the Stevo who was 15 is that I have seen more and felt the knocks more and naturally become more resilient which you will also “) try not to think too far ahead of the game let it play out enjoy the now not the later force a smile when you can and enjoy the things you love!

       go and have a  chat with doctor and if you don’t feel that there was any achievement in doing so go to another one? try a support group or family to discuss things ? check in with us here and let us know how your tracking plenty of good people on this forum who have some battles, battles that can be helped J    

  • liana01735
    liana01735 TheQuestioner

    Posted

    I agree with all the advice, change can be terrifying but it is unavoidable. Try and take comfort in some of the constants you have in your life like friends and family or a hobby and try to think about the positives these changes can bring like the chance to meet new people, new freedoms and opportunities you didn't have as a child and you may start to see change in a more positive light x
  • Ezzythebookworm
    Ezzythebookworm TheQuestioner

    Posted

    You really have been through a lot it seems yet you're still hanging in their 

    that's admirable 

    dont be afraid of change 

    it's leading you to a new beginning 

    you can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep on re reading the last one 

    stay strong 

    because things WILL get better 

    it may be stormy now but it can't rain forever 

    I really admire you though 

    my dad has type one diabetes and it's really hard 

    with everything else in ure life going on it can't be easy but please stay strong! 

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