I don't know how to live with herpes?
Posted , 7 users are following.
Hi.. I'm 19 and just been diagnosed with herpes and I don't know how to take it. I'm a uni student and on break for Christmas and I feel like a walking virus I don't want to go back.. I suffer from depression as well which doesn't help. I'm so scared about what this means for my future. The nurse gave me tablets but no help I don't know anything which is scary I keep reading stuff online which isn't helping.. the thought of having to sit down everyone I sleep with and tell them I could infect them makes me feel sick I feel like I can't lead a normal life with this burden on my back that's going to follow me for the rest of my life.. I can't stop crying and I don't know what to do.
0 likes, 9 replies
Takenc jane59141
Posted
I feel the same I can't stop crying am here
jessica93013 jane59141
Posted
Takenc jessica93013
Posted
How are you doing it. I was diagnosed in June and idk what to do and I have a family that make me happy but I can't get over it
jane59141 Takenc
Posted
Same my family's been so supportive but I can't get past it
jessica93013 Takenc
Posted
Takenc jessica93013
Posted
jessica93013 Takenc
Posted
katiecat11 jane59141
Posted
It's extremely hard when oh first find out. I've had it for 2 1/2 years now and I was the same when I had my first break out. Now I forget I have it everyday, I get the occasional break out during my menstrual cycle and when my stress level is high. I take the medication for help but you can have your first and then never have one again or occasionally. I had a bad breakout last month due to the semester ending and my period fell right at that time. I've had sex with guys and I didn't infect them. I have a boyfriend and he knows and he gets tested all the time and I haven't given it to him. Living your life like you did a few weeks ago prior to finding out is possible. This is something you have, it doesn't define who you are as a person.
1992BL jane59141
Posted
Hi Jane, I graduated from university this year with a job already organised, everything seemed to be going right for me and then I was diagnosed with hsv2 I thought my life was over!
I had all the thoughts in which you are having now about how to tell people etc. My symptoms are really mild so I have struggled mentally with having the virus more than I have with any symptoms. I buried my head in the sand for a while and refused to believe that I actually had it while the whole time I couldn't stop thinking about it and researching it.
After After 5 months of having it I won't lie and say that I don't ever think about it because I do but I cope with having it so much better. I've learnt it doesn't change who you are I'm still the same person I was before.
I worried as well about having to tell partners I have the virus but currently I'm not seeing anyone so why should I stress over a discussion I may not have to have for ages, so don't worry about that it's a bridge we will cross when we come to it!
With regards to sitting people down that you have slept with and telling them you have herpes... I had this exact thought, I asked the nurse about what to do and she just said to use protection and have the hsv2 discussion when you get a regular partner!
So I still have sex but try to b as careful as possible and always use protection! You will lead a normal life trust me it gets easier you will learn to accept it hang in there!