I don't know how to live with herpes?

I feel the same I can't stop crying am here

The first week or so after finding out your diagnosis it can be very hard. Crying and wondering why me i didnt ask for this why me. Well theres 2 ways they didnt know they have the virus as living with asymptomatic and then the people who know they have thjs virus and just dont care who they spresd it to.the good thing is this virus isnt skmething that will kill you. I was diagnosed in august and here it is dec and im right back to my normal life. My sexy life is back to where it was.. your life is the way you make it

It's extremely hard when oh first find out. I've had it for 2 1/2 years now and I was the same when I had my first break out. Now I forget I have it everyday, I get the occasional break out during my menstrual cycle and when my stress level is high. I take the medication for help but you can have your first and then never have one again or occasionally. I had a bad breakout last month due to the semester ending and my period fell right at that time. I've had sex with guys and I didn't infect them. I have a boyfriend and he knows and he gets tested all the time and I haven't given it to him. Living your life like you did a few weeks ago prior to finding out is possible. This is something you have, it doesn't define who you are as a person.

Hi Jane, I graduated from university this year with a job already organised, everything seemed to be going right for me and then I was diagnosed with hsv2 I thought my life was over! 

I had all the thoughts in which you are having now about how to tell people etc. My symptoms are really mild so I have struggled mentally with having the virus more than I have with any symptoms.  I buried my head in the sand for a while and refused to believe that I actually had it while the whole time I couldn't stop thinking about it and researching it. 

After  After 5 months of having it I won't lie and say that I don't ever think about it because I do but I cope with having it so much better. I've learnt it doesn't change who you are I'm still the same person I was before. 

I worried as well about having to tell partners I have the virus but currently I'm not seeing anyone so why should I stress over a discussion I may not have to have for ages, so don't worry about that it's a bridge we will cross when we come to it! 

With regards to sitting people down that you have slept with and telling them you have herpes... I had this exact thought, I asked the nurse about what to do and she just said to use protection and have the hsv2 discussion when you get a regular partner! 

So I still have sex but try to b as careful as possible and always use protection! You will lead a normal life trust me it gets easier you will learn to accept it hang in there!