I don't know what is happening

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Over the last couple of weeks I've been having an array of intrusive thoughts about my relationship all ranging from "I don't love him anymore" to "I like this person" and it's extremely distressing. I love my boyfriend so, so much and every time I have these thoughts it feels like my heart is being crushed by a massive weight. It feels like I'm being stabbed in the heart. He's such an amazing man and I adore him to bits. He's kind, he's sweet, he's so incredibly smart and beautiful and loyal and amazing and he lives me so much and I love him so much. I keep on convincing myself that it will go away and it does go away when I'm not feeling stressed but when I have these feelings it feels like the end of the world. I don't know what's happening and it's terrifying. All I know is that I'm terrified of losing him and that I don't want to break up with him. Having these feelings makes me feel so incredibly horrible. It makes me feel like a horrible person and partner and makes me feel toxic. Am I depressed? I don't know what to do?

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    I think it would be best if you spoke with a counselor about this. You need some support and the counselor can help you sort all this out and help you manage it. You could even do virtual counseling right at home if you like. You need to stop torturing yourself about this and start feeling some joy again.

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    hi chandle, men! they cause more problems and upset us sensible women more than anything. go our treat yourself and get some support for you. try to work out what you think he's done to upset you. they are like young kids and it"s not funny for you. they should be born grown up! this isn't your fault!

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    relationship anxiety is a thing, you can also have ocd about your relationship and thats where your intrusive thoughts are coming from, i have a girl that i adore so much and love spending time with her its nothing official yet but it may as well be but im always in my head with anxiety asking myself do i want this (i know i do) and those thoughts break me because it makes me feel guilty because it makes me think im second guessing the relationship, but ive realised im not and those are just intrusive thoughts i get. since you know you love him next time you have a thought just tell yourself its a silly thought and youll feel better about it all soon(:

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