I don't know what to do :(

maybe it is the other way round and you are suffering because of his behaviour. If you are going to survive

together you need to understand each other.

On the cat front sometimes ill treatment in the past may mean that they behave a certain way. The previous owner may have been a male who was cruel to the cat for example.

Anyway good luck and remember there are plenty more men around if this one is being too much for you to bear.

Richard

You go talk to your doc asap and try to do some cbt. ( cognitive behavioural therapy) and tell them what you are dealing with. YOU are not alone and I am going through the same thing. I have health anxiety and it is very scary. The longer you wait to go get help the longer you will suffer with this and the ones you love will suffer too.

When someone doesn't have anxieties like us, they don't understand what were going through. It's so hard to live like this and you need to talk to someone now. You don't wanna waste your life worrying. I've been going through this since I was 14. I'm 34 now. What kind of things cause your anxiety?

I was going to make a doctor appointment tomorrow as enough is enough. The last time they gave me a self help booklet that worked for a bit but it's not helping to control my emotions now. I'm really unsure what sets me off, I get extremely nervous at the prospect of having to set foot out my comfort zone. I get nervous over silly things like if my partner didn't like the meal I'd made. The whole situation with the cat as well. I desperately want to make the cat happy and regardless how hard I try, she doesn't seem to care and it upsets me.

I get extremely frustrated with myself as well. I get angry at myself for getting upset, then I get upset at that. It's a vicious circle.

I am no professional but in my opinion you need to be more confident in yourself and do to expect too much from yourself. We are only human. Do the best you can. As for the cat, maybe it's getting neg vibes from you. Try and be calm, happy and slowly approach the cat. He/she will come around. That's a very minor thing to get upset over. Let it come naturally. We had a cat that loved my husband more than me. No big deal. As I'm sure you want the cat to like you, don't read into it so much.

I make meals all the time that my husband doesn't like lol some he loves some not so much. If he died by he doesn't. Don't let little things bother you as much. Take it day by day and do your best. We can only do the best we can. Don't be so hard on yourself. You need someone to talk to they will help you understand that it's ok to make mistakes and it is totally normal for everyone make mistakes. You have too many high expectations of yourself so work on that. Be proud of what you can do and don't worry so much about the small stuff

I meant if he does he does if he doesn't he doesn't ( not dies) lol dumb autocorrect

It's all these silly little things adding up. Plus trying to get settled in our new home. Im waiting on my work start date so I'm worrying about money. My partner seems really sad about moving away from his friends at times, and I understand that. He has his own anger issues he needs to deal with, but he can't deal with me being so upset at times. I need to get myself back on track, you're right, I don't need to be so hard on myself. I feel guilty when I do maybe treat myself sometimes as well. I worry about everything, sometimes things that don't even need to be thought about. It makes me feel hopeless and a let down to everyone.

I haven't just sat around wollowing in selfpity though. I've recently joined an evening class that I'm enjoying. I'm hoping I can maybe make some new friends and whatnot.

I feel like I'm moaning again. I'm sorry.

Don't ever be sorry. Take things slow and do what you can to make small improvements one by one. Take one day at a time. If you notice you focus too much on something, try and work on that first then move on to the next etc....,

We all have things big and small we obsess about and focus on too much. We as women put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do too much and to please others. It takes a toll after a while and you feel like your losing control. As I said, we are only human. Start your day of thinking positive tell yourself your gonna have a good day and don't put so much pressure on yourself. Talk to your partner and show him these articles so maybe he can understand it a bit and see that your not alone in this. My husband has a hard time understanding this too.

I'll be here to chat anytime if ya need to..

As for your partner, it will be hard on him leaving his friends but as long as you guys stick by each other, communicate always, things will be ok.