I feel dirty

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I've just finished my first outbreak. My head is all over the place. My partner gave me the virus after he caught a cold sore from kissing his son. How can I be angry at him kissing his son. I'm scared . I'm alone. He's pretending everything is normal. I'm worried that maybe nxt time we make love he's gonna freak out and not want me and I'm worried he's going to leave me, I'm going to the Drs tomor to hopefully get the anti viral drug. I love my partner so much I'm considering breaking up with him to keep him safe. I don't want him going through what I went through this weekend. I feel so dirty I can't stop crying 

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    Why would you leave your partner? Isn’t he the one that gave it to you? Do you have HSV1 or 2? 

    My partner now is not the one who gave it to me and he still wants me in every way. 

    Don’t feel dirty. I was the same way the first month, now I’m on my second month and coming to terms with it. You’d be surprised how common it is. I only have my boyfriend and my best friend to talk to about it because where I’m from you only get it from sleeping around and that’s not what happened in my case. Things do get better. In time you’ll be back to your self just have to think positive. Easier said than done I know. 

    This forum is actually what helped me get through it. Everyone on here is so supportive! 

    • Posted

      I'm not sure which strain I was told I had thrush then spent sat night in a n e and they told me then it was herpes. The meds have worked and it's all calmed down but I don't want him to get ill like I was. 

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      But if he alreadyvhas the strained of it there’s no stopping it now. Whether he gets an outbreak or not. You can’t prevent that. 

      If they told you it was herpes I’m shocked they didn’t say which one. I have HSV2 which is the one that gets the frequent outbreaks. Yes it does suck my boyfriend doesn’t have it. I’m scared to have sex with him because I don’t want to pass it but he doesn’t mind. 

      If your partner already has it you can’t reinfect him though 

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    Seriously? If he gave it to you, he already has it, so why are you freaking out? You don't even need the meds to protect him, because he will be immune to getting it elsewhere after he's had it for 4 months. He should have taken the meds to protect you!

    • Posted

      He didn't know he had it. This weekend has turned my world upside down 

  • Posted

    Awe. Hang in there one day at a time. I was diagnosed after being with someone with a cold sore. The thoughts slowly diminish.
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    I'm three yrs in. It's really common. More common than you think. I still have my up and down days. We are not alone. We feel it cause maybe our best friends don't have it but really it's going to be a side note. Time is what helps. And no one could ease the pain until time passed. I don't have a partner and I fret the idea if I did meet that guy I want in my life but it hasn't stopped me in the dating world. I'm very cautious and very responsible but i rethink things until I'm nuts. Then I just tell myself it's one bad day and wait until the next day . But just know you are not alone.

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