I feel like I have lost myself. What should I do?

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I have been depressed for the last three months. My pet dog died and he was my best companion that I ever had. Life is not the same without him. I feel lost and empty. I can't concentrate on anything. My heart is still heavy. How can I overcome this loss? Somebody please help me!

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    hi Kenneth, bless you! what happened to your dog? i am genuinely trying to find out not being rude! i am sure you did your best for your dog when it was alive! take 1 day at a time to get out and about if you can and are one of the people in an area allowed to go out! think about another dog and getting one, not to replace the one you want but to help you feel ok. look after yourself. x

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    Nothing ever really dies. When someone you love dies, they'll still live on, just in a different form. You have those really fond memories of your dog left so in way your pet dog still lives on as a memory. I'm sorry if it's not the best advice.

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    Hi Kenneth!

    Firstly, I am sorry to hear about your dogs passing.. They really are a persons best friend.

    As for getting over a death, You have to experience the 5 steps of grief (This usually doesn't have a timescale on how quick it'll happen)

    Time is a healer!

    All the best


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    You grieve a pet the same way you grieve a person because the grief is simply a sign that there was great love between you, trust, and many memories. When I had to put my cat to sleep, they gave me a tuft of her hair, a paw print, and forget me not seeds to plant. I put them all on her unique window sill, where she would sit and wait for me to come home from work. A friend added a spray of pussy willows. That helped me get through for a while. Then there was a long period of aching. But now, I talk about her whenever I can. That keeps her memory fresh. I will get another kitty someday when I can again settle down in one place.

    You will find particular things that keep your dog close to your heart. And the grieving will take its own time and rhythm. Emptiness is a part of grief, and sorrow, and shock and weariness. And you will know when your grief has run its course when you still miss your best friend, but you are not wrestling with sweeping emotions or hollow loss. I send you my sincere condolences; know that many have passed this way before you.

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