i feel like im dying

I don't think this is natural. I have been feeling terrible, acutally horrible this past month, totally awful. I also feel like I'm dying I have this feeling of terrible dread like there is something terribly wrong with me. It is way worse in the morning can't even think of what to wear to work it is such a chore and I am having terrible stomach issues. I feel for you there is no joy, I try so hard to ignore but the feeling does not go away it lasts all day. I went to gyno she wanted to put me on anti=depressant didn't even bother to check my harmone levels. I feel so depressed. I feel for you I wish there was someone that was going through the same thing close to me where I live, I feel so alone with my problems

Hi Viola

I am so sorry you are feeling so terrible... I feel for you dear. I am not depressed but also sometimes feel I am gravely ill and start thinking all these thoughts... but you know then I take a walk in my garden... chat to my hubby, have some tea, go for a walk and while I walk I talk to God... then I am reminded that He has a plan for me and that I have to trust Him... hang in there girl... we are here for you...

xx

Tams

Hi viola

Thank you for your reply and

Sorry to hear you are suffering so much and feel so alone .Its really quite shocking isn't it .

Like you i tend to feel at my very worst in the mornings.

I am barely functioning.I am struggling to even care about what i look like or anything as i feel so gross !

They all just want to push out anti depressants ..cheapest easiest option for them .

I do hope you can find some kind of support /help with everything ..this is rubbish !

Thank you, I have put all my faith in GOD, I will not give up. I don't feel depressed, but I do feel dread and fear, especially in the morning. I know he has a plan for me as well and I need to trust that he will take care of me and have faith. I appreciate your response and feel comfort that there are others like me struggling the same way.

Donna- The mornings are my worst time. I feel such dread, and yes anti-depressants is what I was given. I made an appointment for tomorrow with a specialist. I will continue to find someone that will help me, because this is no way to live. I also to struggle on just thinking what to wear, haven't put on make-up for about a month. Everyone at work notices and ask if I'm okay, as always I say yes, but I AM NOT!!! I barely function to, find no no joy. I know I shouldn't feel this way I put my faith in the LORD that this shall pass, hopefully soon.

where do you live Viola? you are not alone, look all of us we go through this horrible nightmare and the support we get from each other here is better then any dr or antidepressants!!! i feel that fear and dread everyday..today i went to a dermatologist i got this little mole that for the past month it itches constantly! of course for a week now keep thinking i got something really bad!! thank god was nothing! Now i have that drip in the back of my throat from being so anxious all day!! feel better xoxoxo

I live in Colorado, went to the gyno and gave me a low estrogen patch. Pharmacy didn't have it in stock so I haven't been able to use it. Still have dread and these uneasy feelings. I worry all the time giving everything to GOD, because I can't handle my problems alone. I feel for all of you it's dreadful.

I have to agree with you Viola...I worry myself into a panic attack... my legs keep going numb and then I fear for the most awful illness... saw my neurologist today and he assures me I do not have MS or something sinister... my home dr tells me... oh I am not worried about your legs going numb?? huh?? what the hell.. so all I can do is give my fears to God and trust Him. This forum is a wonderful place to destress and get support..

sending hugs

Tams

Hugs to you too, being able to talk to someone even if it's over these messages is a great comfort for me. Wish I could give everyone a hug!!!

I'm in Florida, wish we can live closer..i feel the same, so alone no one understands! My kids they just roll their eyes and tell me to stop thinking about it and get out there do fun things!!!!

Is not like we seat there and say today i will feel lousy!! today i woke up feeling dizzy took my BP was the lowest ever 94/59... i had some coffee took it again went back to normal 110/69.. im obsessing over my bp and heart rate all the time like a crazy person!!!

my health anxiety is so bad!!! im tired 10 long years!!

When I transitioned from peri to post I had the worst health anxiety. It was so bad, I had to be hospitalized. I was taking my blood pressure every 5 minutes. I realized while I was in the hospital that, while they were taking my blood pressure 3x daily, that it goes up and down throughout the day and I asked the doctor and she said that your blood pressure is normal, sometimes low and sometimes a little high. It was then I knew that I was over worrying about it. There were other symptoms that I completely obsessed over such as palpitations, the worse one I obsessed over, dizziness, stomach and digestive issues (those were really bad), nausea, grumbling, rumbling, gas, constipation, feeling of my esophagus closing up. I was certain I was dying. Of course I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and depression which I never really had until my hormones started to whack out. Regardless, they told me that I needed meds, which I gracefully declined because I knew that it was my hormones. I enjoyed the reprieve while in there though, it gave me a chance to work through some stressors in my life and get a very thorough medical workup that revealed my pre-diabetic condition and some thyroid imbalance. I chose to decline medications and when I came out I did a plethera of research, changed my diet completely and began taking herbs and supplements for anxiety, the best I have found so far and swear by is lavender capsules, L-Theanine, valerian root for sleep and chamomile. I researched on how to balance my hormones by reducing xenoestrogens which are chemicals in almost everything we use; bath products, cosmetics, cleaners/laundry soap just everything. Seeds, specifically ground flax has worked wonders, 2 week after I started taking it every morning I started feeling better. The things I did and decided to do are often controversial and doctors will telll you that HRT is the way to go, for some maybe but I didn't want it because a doctor did tell me that once you take the HRT and then stop, the symptoms come back worse and you can't take HRT the rest of your life without risks. A low glycemic diet, exercise..even when you hate exercise, reduce the xenoestrogens and try to eat as organic as you can afford. If I couldn't afford organic because I wasn't working for a year and a half, I would wash all my produce religiously in baking soda, vinegar and water, letting them sit in the water and then scrubbing and rinsing them thoroughly. After a year I was feeling significantly better and I was able to go back to work and get my best life back. That doesn't mean that I don't have symptoms, I still have anxiety and hot flashes, occasional digestive upsets usually marked the same time as I would have had my cycle but now I can ride through it. I also started doing things I enjoy again, well, I should say, I forced myself out to do things I enjoy again like drummin, drum circles, going out to dinner, movies, walks, coffee shops, shopping. I made it a point when I felt really bad through that year to take a drive 1 time per day even if it was around the block and I did it clutching the wheel and gritting my teeth, around the block felt like around the world but soon the anxiety lessened. You get the picture. I didn't even want to leave my house because the anxiety was so bad.This menopause is a wild ride to say the least but it does ease up eventually. Some women have no symptoms because their hormones decline on an even, balanced keel and some women like myself get hit like a ton of bricks and your body says, "ok, no more estrogen for you, starting, NOW!" It hits you and you feel scared and that something deathly is wrong with you. Get a physical, get the low down on your health with your doctor. If you are in good health just ride this out and do some research to build a way of life that you can deal with with diet, herbs and etc..best of luck! P.S My blood pressure cuff is in the trash.

Thank you so much for your message!

I keep finding my self doing the same thing taking my blood pressure all the time!!! Im going to take your advise and start again with changing my diet and exercise..i did start going to yoga 2 weeks ago and i liked it..also im going to start walking again!!! I also do drink a cup of chamomile tea before bed a d it does helps me sleep!!

Thank you again for your wonderful message xoxo

I'm always scared of checking my bp.....

Brilliant advice and such a hopeful post ..thankyou for posting that .

Hi Viola .How did you get on with the specialist?Were they any help to you ?

And yes i completely understand what you are saying.

Its a silly thing in the grand scheme of it all, but i do feel quite sad about the fact i don't have the energy to care about what i look like any more .I feel so rubbish i feel like a look horrible no matter what i do. Pale pimply and saggy basically ...oh and a bit hairy .🤭 I just don't know what's happened .

Do hope you got some support.

I looked up menopausal specialist on-line and made a few calls. She gave me a low estrogen patch, but I have not used it. Terrified of the side affects. I bought a harmonol tea from welltopia, stopped well cut back on dairy and did a lot of self reflecting. I actually drove 7 hours for a women's catholic retreat. participated on Saturday and drove back to colorado on Sunday. I have to say it was the best thing I ever did. We as women need time for ourselves and we need to stop trying to be the hero. Cook, clean, make supper, wash clothes, worry about or kids, young, adult teenage, husband, work, etc etc. We neglect ourselves and we are last priority. GOD actually told me on Saturday that I was 1st priority, that I was beautiful, even in the morning, to give all my anxiety and problems to him, for me to walk, to get a massage, to go get coffee, to read, to pray, to do meditation and talk. I feel so much better, I still am very nervous, but i say Jesus I trust in you. He also told me that he loved me dearly. These conversations with all of you help me understand that we are all going through the same issues and that I am not alone. We can all help each other out, anxiety really plays havoc with out digestive issues, blood pressure, headaches, sore joints, random aches and pains here and there, so we need to prioritize ourselves. Start eating better, cut out some of the junk food, walk, take a pro-biotic for out stomach, and make ourselves see the beauty in life, we ourselves are the only ones that make ourselves happy again, we can't depend on anyone else to make us happy. GOOD LUCK to all of you. I'm here for anyone that needs to talk.

I feel just this way....

Woke up today and feeling so unwell, my body is painful, ankle, joints, feel feverish like and flu symptoms yet I don't have a temperature or think I have flu. Last night I had a panic attack in my sleep and felt like I'm having a heart attack. Was so scared and wanted to go to hospital. These feelings are so weird. It's worse as I live alone and do t have anyone to talk to..

What an lovely message Viola... thank you for sharing

Tams

Hi viola I'm glad you have done something for yourself that fills your soul !.

Thanks for sharing your that Viola, I needed this this morning. I too have had all the usual symptoms as I have already mentioned in previous posts. I had a light bleed after nothing for over a year and was diagnosed with polyps, one has been removed and waiting for two others to be done. This weekend I seem to have started a full blown period! Much heavier bleeding and all the symptoms I used to get..just when I thought it was all over! I feel like I am back to square one again, I had the all clear when I went for my scan a few weeks ago regarding anything sinister, but it has come as a shock...I did feel really strange over the weekend, like adrenalin, excitement for no reason, then cramps etc...

I thought I would share this in case others had irregular bleeding, try not to panic, easier said than done I know...I have read on another thread that of course you should get checked out by your GP, but its usually nothing to worry about. You often can't find the reassurance when it happens, but actually a lot of women have a bleed after 12 months, you can feel so alone in your worry especially when you start googling! . This site has been a blessing for me when I have been feeling anxious, and I do quite a bit! Sending lots of hugs to you all xxx

hi sian. thank you for sharing this. some of the things we are having to go through are so scary.

send a message here, you are not alone. Go get a good check up talk to your Dr. about all of your worries. Find a friend that you can talk to. I always feel uneasy and i give my worries to GOD, believe me I've had several tests done, but I always worry that they are missing something. It is crazy what our harmones do to us, not only are we getting older and have all these aches and pains, along with stomach issues, headaches, joint pains, but worse of all the anxiety and panicky feeling. This sight helps me know that i am not alone. I ask Jesus to take me by the hand and take my scary feelings away.

Thanks Viola

I've had tests done but doctors can't see anything. I eat well, exercise, run with my dogs, my only worry is all this symptoms that comes and goes, I think Im suffering from anxiety, as I get this weird panic attack in my sleep from time to time..

Excellent advise Viola... I also go and see my dr and chat to him... then I feel better... I have a wonderful sister that supports me and gives me fab encouragement... I also take all my concerns to God on a daily basis... I have two reminders every morning of all Gods promises for me... that is the only way I get through any attack of anxiety, burning, heat wave, jelly legs or arms, palpitations, etc etc... God is so faithful and I trust Him fully. I is not easy but I tell me myself 'This to will pass' and soon enough it has passed..

Sending hugs to all the ladies out there suffering

Tams

Sending hugs back!! I too say this will pass