I feel ugly

It is you the happy smiley person they know and like. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your friends will all have their own dislikes about their bodies. Look how how all the supposed media beauties are all spending money on improvements.

Hello, When i was a child somehow i got the impression that i wasn't loved and that gave me a complex that i carried through out my adult life, who would want to look at me, so your not alone.

Have you ever thought about what other people are thinking about themselves it's a difficult world out there, the more you talk about your feelings the more we all relate to you.

God bless

John

Hi Chuberoos,

The number of people I have heard this from in my lifetime is really unbelievable.

Have you ever looked at Victoria's Secrets Angel Models? They all look so glamorous yet if they take all that makeup off, you would not recognize any of them. They all have to stick to strict diets and workouts 5 days a week. Yet after one of their main shows, what you do not see is they have burgers delivered backstage.

They each go through two to three lipsticks in just one show! Modeling is not beauty, it is just all dieting, to the extent where some have their ribs showing.

I find it sad in today's society, where so many people rely on others liking their "selfies" on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook, this makes some people have very little esteem about themselves. What we lack in today's society is the lack of beauty that has been set at such a high standard. People need to be made aware of this and stop thinking they are "ugly". There are no such standards, it is what social media and MSM (MainStream Media) advertise, ignore it.

We are all different to a degree, none of us are the same - it would be a boring place if we were all the same. It would be me saying something like define the word "normal", how do you what is normal and what is not? You don't, only what we are taught, the same applies to the word "ugly" - who defined the word in the first place? Nobody knows the answers to these questions.

It's all programmed into our mindsets these days, and it is sickening to see school children suffering from depression - in my day, school children never had depression, anxiety or panic attacks. These days things have become worse over the decades.

No one is ugly, not in our world, anyway!

Regards,

SteV3.

Hi Chuberoos - you have described a feeling that many of us have felt, do feel, or have continued feeling in our lives. While the saying "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is all very well, when we are feeling ugly it doesn't matter what anyone else is thinking. When you catch someone staring at you from across the room, the immediate response is to believe they are judging us because we're too fat/thin/tall/black/white/hairy/hairless/disproportionate - the list goes on - while in fact they are admiring how fat/thin/tall/black/white/hairy/hairless/ disproportionate - the list goes on - we are. The thing that matters is how we think about ourselves. You are fortunate we live in a society where we don't have to live with our suffering re: aesthetics.

The first thing weight-wise is to determine that we are emotionally and intellectually ready to change. That's when we make a plan to change the future. Start gradually. This is a life-change, not a diet. relearning new beneficial ways of energising, exercising and modifying our bodies. One step at a time. Plenty of info out there about that. If the issue is cosmetic, work out a savings plan to reach your goal, and be reasonable about it. if the bills come and you feel you are going backwards, remember all journeys have their obstacles. It's the one's who don't quit who will win.

It's tough to change habit which is why it is so rewarding. Be kind to yourself and start planning today. You are the only one that can change what you hate about yourself.