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I feel used and abuse due to ptsd! I don’t know what do to!

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bill78216
bill78216

I was in a ( what I call ) a decent relationship with someone who is 16 years my junior and who happens to have ptsd. I can’t explain the roller coaster ride I’ve been on over the past year. I definitely did not know what I was in for because he was so amazing in the beginning. Now I’m dealing with a broken heart due to some of the extreme symptoms of this dreadful illness. The irrational behavior, the convoluted discussions, and now I believe I’ve recently learned of the promiscuity that may exist. We recently had a major disagreement due to me reaching out to his ex- partner (which he believed wanted to harm him in the past). I also called him out on some things I learned about him which didn’t go over well. Since all of this has happened, he’s shut down all forms of communication which has practically destroyed me. I don’t know what to do.

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  • sam18386
    sam18386 bill78216

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    Oh no poor you, that's really sad! It sounds like they really can't cope at all and maybe pushing you away is their way of coping but that doesn't help you feel any better does it? Give them space I think for a weeks to begin with. You could try to explain why you spoke to the ex-partner maybe if they'll listen at all? If they don't don't push it and don't seem desperate. Hopefully the break will make them realise they need help or more help. Good luck tough one.

  • borderriever
    borderriever bill78216

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    Bill

    Possibly He felt you had interfered with His past relationships and has taken badly to that and decided to walk away.You say He had PTSD if that is the case His mood would be complex and would need to talk out His feelings.

    Your problem with that was He appears now to be resentful of you talking out of turn, it would have possibly been better to talk out and forget the implications of the PTSD  He is suffering from or depending on His problem it may have been a Police matter and should have been dealt as such

    With regard to you it is a broken relationship that has burst out in your direction.

    In your feeling a little confused and hurt, that is normal although I do not feel it is related to PTSD.

    Try moving on hopefully you have learned some valuable lessons. You will find someone new

    Good Luck

    BOB

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