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I fount out yesterday I have genital herpes

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Jessjones97
Jessjones97

I’ve been in terrible discomfort downstairs for about two weeks now. I went to the doctors when it first began and I was examined and treated for thrush. I trusted my GP and she said I had nothing to worry about but I knew something wasn’t right. A few days passed and I generally felt sick and unwell. I had a terrible fever and my temperate and heart rate were through the roof. I went to A&E and was seen straight away. I was in hospital for a few days  with suspected pelvic inflammatory disease and septicaemia, I am being treated for both. My mood began to pick up when I was discharged as I thought YES, were finally getting better. Not the case at all, i cannot wee without crying! I knew something wasn’t right, I went back to A&E and my GP 3 times because i felt something wasn’t right. I was almost crazy to them, I noticed blisters in my vagina and around my bum. Yesterday was the worst day of my life, I was told I have herpes. I’ve recently started a new relationship with someone I’m seriously falling for and even the doctor herself said it’s more than likely going to be from him. My last sexual encounters were with previous partners so it makes sense for it to be my new partner. I don’t think I’ve ever heard more disappointing news. I felt angry and upset that he had given this to me? But at the same time he may not of ever known himself. I am 19 years old and have not slept with many people, I feel cursed and disgusting. I feel like no one is ever going to want to be with me? Who would want to marry someone with a disease like that? All sorts of worries are going through my head right now, if I ever do decide to have children.. there will be many complications there. I don’t know how to react? Should I hate him? Should I get rid of him? Please someone just advise me

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  • alyssa_17553
    alyssa_17553 Jessjones97

    Posted

    I just found out a few days ago as well that I have this. You have to remember.... 1 our of 3 people have this. There is no difference between people that have herpes on there mouth or down below. Just herpes on your mouth is #1 and herpes down below is #2... all this is at the end of the day is a bad skin infection. It’s just a virus.... I am too trying to come to terms with this. I just started valacyclovir, it seems to help. Are you taking medication? If your having difficulty peeing, drink a ton of water. Trust me it helps.... and, I have even had to kneel down in a bowl of cold water to pee in. It’s horrible.... but it will pass... I’m trying to tell myself that too. They say the first outbreak is the worst...... we’ll see right ?
  • alyssa_17553
    alyssa_17553 Jessjones97

    Posted

    As far as having children go, there is nothing to worry about. You can have them no problem. At 35 weeks they give you medication to make sure an outbreak doesn’t happen, and if it does happen when you are going to give birth, then they just do a c-section. I just found out my aunt has herpes..... i had no idea, she’s had it for more then 20 years and to her it’s absokutly no big deal at all. She hardly gets an outbreak and when she does, it’s nothing.... and it goes away. 
  • Jessjones97
    Jessjones97

    Posted

    Thank you for that. I feel a lot better within myself and I’m finally getting my confidence back. I hope you’re feeling better too x
  • heather90677
    heather90677 Jessjones97

    Posted

    I found out I had herpes last month I cried myself to sleep for almost 2 weeks straight so trust me I know the feeling.. the only thing I can think about is my FUTURE.” will I ever be in another relationship will I have children I don’t want to have sex because I’ll feel guilty but at the same time I’m scared to tell a future partner who knows how they’ll react it’s so scary!! BUT do not beat your self up I know that it is hard but you are no different from any other human being when your feeling like crap think of people who has lost a child, a mother, or a sister/brother! Think of all the people struggling with cancer and fighting for their lives your situation could always be worse! There’s so many people out there who have it who knows maybe you’ll meet someone else who has it and fall in love you won’t have anything to worry about plus I’ve heard plenty of ppl say they’ve had it for years and has never passed it to their partners.. My advise to you is to take your medication as needed try to avoid anything they say that can trigger an outbreak like STRESS And I know it’s like wtf how do you tell someone to avoid stress when it’s like herpes would cause you to be more stressed then ever but I have learned that being around family and friends taking my meds for depression writing in my journal painting church all those things help keep my stress level down and this website is pretty helpful.. I Wish you the best of luck you will be just fine smile
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