I got an erection while making out but no hard on while watching porn

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I m a virgin guy I used to masturbate to porn but suddenly I don't get any hard on while watching porn although I get hard on while kissing my gf , I m so scared that I might have a problem during sex

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  • Posted

    It sounds psychological, and it's far more important that you get hard when you're with your gf than watching porn.  How old are you?

  • Posted

    26 
    • Posted

      How long is it since you noticed that you weren't getting hard watching porn?  Is it something you feel guilty about?

    • Posted

      2 days and no I don't feel guilty 

    • Posted

      2 days is no time at all. Have faith - you'll be OK.

    • Posted

      If it's only been two days, I wouldn't worry about it.  It's normal for there to fluctuations in someone's libido.  It would have to be at least a week or two before I'd worry about something like that.

  • Posted

    Guess it goes to show how much better the real thing can be. My guess is that if you relax and let your girlfriend tell you what she wants, you will find that penetrative sex is less important to her than you think. Remember, too, that caressing her body with your hand, lips, tongue and fingers are often much more likely to pleasure a woman to orgasm than vigorous thrusting, though hopefully you'll both enjoy that too. Anxiety is the enemy of pleasure. I always found that taking things slowly and concentrating on my wife's needs allowed my body to respond better than worrying whether I could 'perform'. Mostly - unless you are very young and can come twice without a break - it's often best to help her reach orgasm before you enter her. Most women can come several times without the need to rest like us (older) men between climaxes. So you would have plenty of time to allow your lovemaking to give your penis a chance to stand to attention. Also I take the view that it's as much the woman's responsibility to make things work as it is for the man to get it right. It's different for every couple and often different each time. Sex is often a very hit and miss clumsy affair. Keep your sense of humour and it'll be fun anyway!

    Best thing I can suggest is to talk with your girlfriend about it. 

    • Posted

      I m virgin and from where I come from we don't ve sex before marriage I m engaged and I m worried I used to get a normal hard on while watching porn and I musturbate but now I don't 

      And when kiss my. Gf I get a hard on but after we stop kissing the hard on is gone within seconds

    • Posted

      It's important you follow its example  and let this preoccupation with your penis subside also Plenty of us older men have learned that love, affection, appreciation, communication and respect are much more important to our partners than whether our penises behave as we want.

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