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I have a few queries regarding HSV-1

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Onestepatatime
Onestepatatime

Today I received my test results which provided a positive for HSV-1 on my private areas and couldn't "comfortably" ask the questions I had to my Dr (mainly because I was a little embarassed by my diagnosis..) I was initially suspecting HSV-2 so all of my research was based around HSV-2 than HSV-1. So what does this mean in terms of my breakouts and what's the significant difference betwen HSV-1 and HSV-2? I'm getting married to my fiance soon (I contracted this from him when we were engaging in oral, he must have had a sore without symptoms I suppose) how will this impede our sex life? I read somewhere that rough-sex is also a trigger for any recurring breakouts which is a bummer because my fiance and I have not had penetrative sex yet and it's already so painful when he tries (we decided on waiting for our marriage for this), any tips or advice? When my fiance does not have a cold sore on his mouth, is it permissible for us to share bottles, cups etc.? 

Thank you so much in advance, I love the support and knowledge this site provides.

My initial "outbreak" was AWFUL. I was absolutely miserable from pain, if you're also suffering your first outbreak my advice is to hang in there because it truly does get better. You just need to wait it out unfortunately, stick to the pills/pain-killers, salt baths, cold-presses against your sores and you will survive this, I promise!

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  • mary43533
    mary43533 Onestepatatime

    Posted

    How long have you had it for? Did you get down about it? You seem so positive and bright. I only had one OB in 6 months but feel really down about it. Sorry I haven't answered your questions.
    • Onestepatatime
      Onestepatatime mary43533

      Posted

      I'm not sure how long I've had the herpes virus for, for all I know it could have been lying dormant since we've been sexually active (my fiance is my first and last sexual partner) but my outbreak lasted a maximum of 9 days. Let me tell you, when I was suspicious of my symptoms being herpes I was devastated. It was such an awful period physically (and emotionally) because I was debilitated from walking, lying down, couldn't sleep at all, using the bathroom was a nightmare because I'd burst into tears every time I urinated and PLUS I contracted this thing via sexual contact so the thought of having a sexually transmitted diseas hurt me etc etc.. but I'm not in denial or in heartbreaking shock anymore; I've accepted that this has happened. The more I read up on it and educated myself the more I was aware that this is only a skin condition that CAN be moderated, if there was no hope whatsoever and outbreaks were going to take over our lives forever then I'd be scared. But the good news is, it's just a sore at an inconvenient loaction, I can still be intimate with my man (precautiously, obviously), lead a HEALTHIER lifestyle than before with a few minor changes to my diet (you'll have to tailor this to your lifestyle obviously), have children, and now that I know about this I have SO many friends who have oral sores which means they have Herpes Simplex Virus-1 (my fiance being one of them). Most of these people don't even know that they have a herpes virus in them and they're most likely not going to now that if they were to engage in oral sex they can pass it on to their lovers; we certainly had no idea! In fact, most people can have this virus and never know because their symptoms haven't appeared yet so that paints a rough picture of how revelant this can be. Yes, a virus is a virus and no virus can be good for you but there are things like HIV, Diabetes, Asthma to name a few that also don't have cures and can be potentially more harmful than HSV. At least with this you can monitor the frequency of breakouts you have and manage it accordingly; not everybody reacts the same about it. 

      Believe me when I tell you, I was far from positive and bright a few days ago but now I've come to the realisation that there's no point in moping about "My life's over, I have HSV 1 or 2..." in fact, I wrote a "venting" post during my outbreak a few days ago when I was at my utmost worst so if you read that you'll see how miserable I really was. Life goes on, it's just a cold sore at a really inconvenient place. 

    • mary43533
      mary43533 Onestepatatime

      Posted

      Thanks this has really helped. I think because I'm single and really in the mindset that no one will want me or love me is the hardest aspect of this situation and the fear of rejection
    • Onestepatatime
      Onestepatatime mary43533

      Posted

      I'm so glad it helped. 

      I understand your worries, I think that's one less stress from my end since my fiance is accepting of this and I contracted it from him. Nonetheless it can be worrying regardless to have that talk, and you have every right to be feeling the way that you do. 

      ​I always believe and will continue to think to that the man worthy of you shouldn't limit their love for you because of this, hun. Transmission to other partners CAN be prevented, this is crucial after you discuss this with your partner. There's so much more to you than this "virus", one day someone is certainly going to see this and accept you for the character you are, believe me. I've read so many forums where people explain of finding love, get married, having children and still leading healthy sex lives without transmission to their spouses. I'd read a lot of forums of people who are experiencing the same things as you, you'll be surprised at the success stories some share. There is hope, please hang in there and be strong I promise you will conquer this!

  • angela01249
    angela01249 Onestepatatime

    Posted

    Well...I am very glad you got your result....hsv-1......a little better than typ -2......however....you are still dealing with your husband cold soar...and you need to get the result  in for that.  Oral sex is going to be a right off...especially if you both plan to have babies.....once you get his result in....you both will have to do your research and figure out how to control this for future wise. Good-luck. 
  • koushik17
    koushik17 Onestepatatime

    Posted

    I Seen this within two months. After masturbation I am getting little little rash on my penis head and after 6-12h/1 day's it's totally gone, no resh anymore and my penis head looking back again fresh is it signs of genital herpes ? I'm infected by herpes simplex virus (HSV) ?

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