I have IBS, what happens now?

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Hi guys

Once I was diagnosed with IBS i was over whelmed by how suddenly my life was changing and how everyday seemed like a struggle. It seemed that IBS has a way of creeping and infecting every area of your life. Financial, love life,family life, work and social life. Dealing with the constant pain and adjusting to a new diet I have found  myself changing. I don't recognize who I am anymore..

I thought that because i changed my diet. I wanted results. I expected change and I wanted my life back. I have changed soo much of my everyday routine. The more my life has to adjust to an IBS life style change the more it felt like I was loosing a part of myself.

It is only through a loved one I have released that just following the new diet is not enough and that I spend most of the time feeling sorry for myself and missing my old IBS free self that in the end I'm not helping myself. 

I don't particularly like reading up on IBS and following peoples success stories because it always made me feel sad that this is now my life. I could not move past this feeling and again only through tough love from my partner do I now see that this is a very negative way to approach it.  

IT'S TIME FOR A CHANGE!!

Logically i understand the need for a more positive change where as emotionally I don't feel so confident.

How can I emotionally deal with my struggle?

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  • Posted

    All I can suggest is that you keep on with your Diet and give it time to work. Eventually you will get used to your new regime and you should be fine

    Do not expect a all to quick change, forget it and just get on with your life.

    I have had a disability now for over thirty years, you learn to cope and eventually everything will just fall into place.

    BOB

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    I feel for your misery. And feel it daily. It is a slow slide down. I ended up with a massive anxiety attack which led me to accept some pharmacology help. There are many mood altering or stabilizing meds out there.  It seemed to help, I stopped thinking bad thoughts all the time and was more accepting of my couch life.  Ultimately it was having a loved one who hasn't abandoned me, my daughter and we get along well. She taught me to play video games. Which was helpful escape.  But even that and reading can be difficult.  It will be the hardest and darkest times. You seem like you have fight in you, but try not to put to much hope in things. Ibs is always just there. And the more it hurts the more it's hurting your system. I go into septic shock a lot and end up in the hospital a lot. Multiple surgeries. And there you see all the real misery life has to offer and every time you fight out of it is another victory.  May you have a good day soon. 

  • Posted

    Try distraction techniques like a hobby or light exercise like walking.  I find when I am concentrating on other things, I don’t have IBS flare ups.   I try laugh more about stressful situations and satirise them in my poetry.
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    Try to see IBS success stories as a positive thing; it shows there is hope. You need even a tiny speck of hope to hold on to.   Feeling better takes time; it can’t be rushed.  Don’t give yourself improvement goals.  Just take one day at a time and try to feel happy when you have good IBS days. Try to accept your IBS and you will start to feel better.  IBS thrives on our negative emotions; positive thoughts calm it down enormously.  Once I got diagnosed with IBS, I accepted it as part of my lfe and I started feeling so much better.  The improvement was immediate.

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