I have just been told I have HSV2..I can't stop crying, so depressed
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HI all
10days ago or so I developes a spot down there after sunbathing. I didn't think in a million years this could be herpes.
I went to docs afer it didn't go away in few days and had herpes test done. When it came back and I called for results to be told I indeed have Hsv2 ...I couldn't believe it.
Immediately I felt so angry asking god why me. I am a nice person I never intentionally hurt anyone always try and help others...I just can't get ny head around it to this day.
I have been given famciclovir which I have been taking for a week so far..today I started feeling itchy down there again.
I have been crying every day, I feel like noone will want to be with me now I will have to tell the future partner. .I also just moved back home from uk and people here are so much more judgemental.
I feel like I won't have a chance here and will have to leave back again away from my family and friends...this is killing me I first time ever thought of giving up all together this life will be so much different now. Noone will want me ever again and I so wanted to settle down now..
im so down..I told mum who is supportive bless her but couldn't help to make a comment how I probably contracted it by one night stand or of skme dodgy guy.people here are so uneducated here is such a big stigma attached to the virus
Please someone help me
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p62832 angelina82
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angelina82 p62832
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I can't believe this is happening to me
m0yra29051 p62832
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angelina82 m0yra29051
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joseph73798 angelina82
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First, you need to know 2 things about herpes, everyone and their mother has it, but guess what, because of that stigma, you may never know your best friends share in your struggle (more than 25% females have it, and many more people have it in the uk), which I know because I started a herpes aware Facebook recently because one things for sure, NO ONE IS TALKING about herpes.
You're right about one thing; yes indeed herpes still has that stigma attached to it that makes us all feel like an outcast, but that stigma is entirely false. Herpes tells us all the same lies, "your ugly," was one lie I happened to believe for too long, but herpes will try to lie to you. The herpes stigma will tell you, "damaged goods, your love life is over, or no one will ever want you" and you will learn over over time, these indeed are lies. I felt the same way and it caused me to say "f**k finding a relationship, because no girl will ever want to be with me, so f**k it all...and I became bitter and cynical. But that's not who I am, and I believed those lies so herpes can have a dramatic effect if you don't know the truth and you let it.
Remember too when you share it with whoever, not to victimize it, because it makes you sound like you did something wrong and you didnt do anything wrong (anyone that has sex can get it). When you talk about it, talk about it objectively, I've tested positive for the herpes simplex virus.
3 friends I met from Europe in the last 3 months all had it, and the only way I found out was I told them about my herpes awareness Facebook page. If you do want to be a part you can find my page h aware and it's a girl in a bee outfit on the profile
Trust, time will show you you're not alone and God will show you a man who will love you.
Remember,
We're in this together.
angelina82 joseph73798
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Its so scary as so many people say different things and sometimes it scares you even more instead of reassurance...it has been a hard time for me.i found out from blood test 2weeks ago. Since then it has been a turnmoil of different ugly feelings firstly anger then blame then blaming myself for not beinf careful enough. ..
On top I have a bit of a hypochondria problem so imagine having to deal with something that justice won't go away like flu or sone other issues.
I started reading a book from this Doctor Kelly she writes about your mind connection with the health and it has also given me hope and perhaps a lesson on how to fix the mind to be more positive and grateful.
Its very hard..I never had an issue to get a boyfriend but now I just fear the rejection and also if I tell a wrong person and the whole town will find out. Eastern eu is soo behind with these things I even think ii may have to relocate back to UK as there people understand more as it's more common and the stigma is maybe not as bad. Its a very sad part od my life. ..but I wont give up on myself. Its just so difficult to handle all these emotions. I been snappy at my parents the only person who knows now is my mom...I really try wake up every day and be positive but it just keeps haunting me the ugly thoughts and what ifs...
Im also mortified I may have sone other health issues...im a mess right now maybe I should see a psychologist?
Thanks again for the heads up.
Diamond xxx
JS13 angelina82
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Women are more likely to have them withouth out
knowing. Could be inside and we don't know
If you have it and give birth, if it is out you could give it to you child. The child might never see it or maybe will in 10, 20, 60 years. It is unpredictable but most likely to come out wen immune system is down or stress.
Now knowing that your mother and or father could have it and don't know. May never appear to them.
86% of women have it and it's a blister. Takes as long to heal and contagious as chickenpox.
Now that I know that it is comforting. But having know about it for 3 week and it came out twice already. I don't have all the answers and I am hoping to share with you all.
I hope as a person just finding out like you we can exchange and help each other
Good luck
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angelina82 JS13
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m0yra29051 angelina82
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CM76 angelina82
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angelina82 CM76
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You know right now im even scared to touch anyone even tho its down there ...I just have to educate myself more I guess
donna19388 angelina82
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its not the end of the world, i think HSV1 is worse to be honest because you can turn your face and tell a loved one you cant kiss me thats every day untill its
gone, but HSV2 you can still kiss cuddle etc, just cant have sex untill its cleared,
it gets less over the years and you can take a pill, I suffer from cold soresHSV1 probably one a year so what,
He told me he understood if I never wanted him anymore but before he told me he kept telling me its something i can control (honest he kept repeating) 30 min or more it took him to tell me :-( my heart broke for him
honest it no big deal some people are narrow minded and then they are the people you know you do not want in your life, obviously you probably do not want to tell everyone its private and personal, but there is someone out there infact many people out that it will not bother and you will find someone.
So please do not be down its more comman than you might think xxx
fon22 angelina82
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