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I have OCD and I am struggling with obsessive thoughts, please help.

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chey51702
chey51702

I was recently diagnosed with OCD and my main symptom is struggling with obsessive thoughts. I fabricate memories of things that have not really happened or I hyper-focus on things that actually have happened.

When I first started dating my husband (over two years ago) I had a class with a guy who really reminded me of a terrible emotionally abusive ex. The guy I was in class with was extremely nice and charismatic. I enjoyed being in class with him because he felt so familiar and I was interested in him because of my past trauma. I know the feelings I had are not inherently wrong because you can't help that kind of thing. I would always talk about my boyfriend (now husband) in class around this guy. I made it VERY obvious that I was with someone and that I kind of wanted to make this guy jealous that he could not have me (I know it is silly).

Anyway, I am struggling with the thought that if this guy tried to kiss me, would I have let him? Would I have stopped him? I am obsessing over a hypothetical situation that didn't happen two years ago.

If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 chey51702

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    obsessing over a situation that did not happen two years ago is really a waste of time.

    you are obsessing over the answer to that question because you were not actually in the situation so it could’ve gone either way. Just accept the fact that either you would have or you wouldn’t have.

    but you will never know because all of that was in the past and it never actually happened. .

    ask your self what the outcome would’ve been if you let him kiss you. Think about that.

    Then ask yourself what the outcome would’ve been if you did not let him kiss you and think about that.

    there! ITS over.

    my Advice to you would be to just let it go.

    Think about things and do things that will benefit your life.The past is completely gone and hypotheticals do nothing for you.take care

    • chey51702
      chey51702 jan34534

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply. I read it last night and it helped give me some peace of mind for a little while. I have therapy today so I will bring this up with my therapist. Thank you!!

  • sarah03526
    sarah03526 chey51702

    Posted

    You are having thoughts of someone that reminds you of your ex. I would ask yourself if you have dealt with the trauma you experienced in your past.

    • chey51702
      chey51702 sarah03526

      Posted

      I do think I definitely still have some past trauma that needs to be addressed. I actually have therapy today, so thank you!!

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