I just need reassurance

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I need reassurance in my life. I feel like I'm not normal or that there is something wrong with me. I am an introvert and I love being home. I don't enjoy being away from home and my family for more than a day or two (although I still do this anyway.) There are some days where I don't leave my house for 3 days. Is this normal? I am 18 years old.

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    Are you a boy or a girl?

    I'm a girl - except I'm much older than you. I remember loving being at home when I was 18.

    I am wondering if other people have suggested to you that you're "not normal"?

    I'm a mum, can you tell me what you think is wrong with you? Socially, I mean?

    Love Chrissie

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      I'm a girl. My mom and sister are very extraverted and everyone loves them and it's easy for them to make friends. On the other hand, I'm introverted and shy like my dad. (I'm more extreme though.) It's hard for me to make friends, especially ones my age. I just feel like I'm not normal if I just stay at home on a Friday night while other kids my age are going out with friends. 

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    first of all, "normal is a setting on a dryer".  Everyone is differnent, no one really feels like they always fit in ALL the time!  I am 57, and very ill and wish I had not worried myself with these thoughts you speak of. But is did, and it was a waste of precious time. Do what makes you happy. If stayin home all the itme does that for you, then do it! If you can, work from home.  

    I took care of the dying in their homes when I was working, it was great, I could be alone most of the time. There is work for people like us.  

    But if you are staying home because you are afraid to go out, that is a whole new ballgame. 

    I am an introvert, but I do like to go out once in a while.  It just takes me a lot longer then extorverts to feel ready to face the world again.  I only go out if I have to get groceries.  

    Nighty night. Hope you start loving yourself just as you are.  You don't have to BE like anyone, just be you and be happy with that. 

     

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    Dee is quite right, you know. You only have to be 'you'. Nobody else, jusy you.

    I was REALLY the same as you at the age of 18. I always stayed at home, I HATED parties (I still do) I liked classical music and all my friends liked pop music, which I thought was awful.

    Of course, things move on, and I'm married now, with children. But I still prefer my home (the one with my husband) better than anywhere else. I still hate pop music, I still sit for hours reading, and I work as a nurse, which is busy and quite noisy at times - so I value my home even more.

    Hey, I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all. And I'm pretty sure Dee doesn't think there's anything wrong with you, either. So that's two slightly older ladies against one young lady.

    BE YOU!

    And if you ever want to send  a message to me or to Dee, go ahead. We'd love to hear from you.

    love Chrissie.

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    I agree with the responders

    We cannot all be social butterflies

    As a young woman I preferred home, like Chrissie I hated parties and still do.

    Social events bore me rigid, other than family gatherings within my home or theirs. I don't drink therefore find sourjourns to a pub tiresome

    I preferred my books and music and at times, being alone

    We, as individual human beings, do not have to be one of the herd, nor is it necessary to force ourselves to do things we prefer not to, to "fit" in

    Those who are comfortable in their own skin are usually happier people.

    Where's the sense in forcing yourself to do things when you have no desire to?

    You are perfectly normal.

    It is your life. Life it as you choose doing what makes you happy as opposed to appeasing others

     

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