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I live near Dundee in Scotland if anyone wants to chat

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mandy99761
mandy99761

I have bad depression. Loneliness as no one can understand. I'd like to

Get to know anyone to get to know each other for mutual support. I am 54.

Don't work due to ill health. I have a grown up son and granddaughter. It's

To come on here and talk to anyone, but it would be nice to actually

Get to know someone that I can relate to and make a friendship with.

Maybe even meet sometime in the future. I hope this doesn't sound

Like I'm on a dating site. I would love to hear from anyone. Mandy

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  • laura08496
    laura08496 mandy99761

    Posted

    dear mandy,

    i like the strength you have, reaching out to find others with mutual issues. and it doesn't sound like you are looking for a dating site! i like your humor. i live in the u.s., and i'm in my mid fifties and have never been married, and no children. so, it doesn't sound like we've got much in common, but there are some similarities. i don't work. one of the reasons is because of deppression. i am home often, looking outside my window, thinking about all the work relationships i miss. i've known some great people and enjoyed their friendships. i take care of my pop. he's diabetic and legally blind. my sister lives across the country. i have a boyfriend, who loves me in spite of my illness. and i have a cat. great companion. that unconditional love is so precious. do you have any pets? anyway, i am lonely. lonely because i sometimes think i'm the only one in this world who suffers alot, and so many others don't understand. thats one of the reasons i now avoid people and relationships. they are well meaning with there advice, but simply don't truly understand true dibilitating depression. this is a nice place to express yourself. i hope you find some good advice or suggestions, and perhaps a friendship where you can share thoughts, even laughter. it would be nice for you to find a pal. i wish you the best! remember that you are not alone. good luck!

    truly, laura

    • mandy99761
      mandy99761 laura08496

      Posted

      Thanks for replying. Im single. My son is 26. Haven't had a partner

      For many years. Your lucky in that you have your boyfriend. I feel lucky

      To have my son and granddaughter. I had 2 cats for over 20 years

      One died last year. We have always been cat people. I am

      Considering getting a dog. Have been for some time. The reasons

      Are in the hope of helping me go out and for the company. That. So

      Sad sounding. You never imagine life cud be this desperate

      Wen he younger. I'm on my own most of the time. I gradually

      Pushed friends away over the years. Because I felt like I was

      Not able to tell them how I felt. And I didn't keep up being chatty

      And sociable. I didn't want their pity. And I just didn't delete to

      Them. As much as i liked them. If had depression on and off for

      Many years. I always seem to say, but this time it's worst or different

      So my family say. But it feels worst. But maybe not to them.

      I struggle with eating and I'm depressed. I get up in the morning

      And sit in front of the TV. I don't want to do anything. I force myself

      To do a small chore, then back to the TV. Not really watching it.

      Just thinking about how I feel all the time. Nothing seems to take my

      Mind off myself. But I'm also trying to understand why I feel like

      This. A day is a very long time. Some times I just can't think

      Anymore, my brain feels frazzled. It takes me to wash or dress.

      I feel scared slot of just feeling and living like this. I've been on

      Antidepressants for years. Not helping now. Iv been like this for

      Months now. I'd love to know how your day is spent. There are

      Degrees of depression. You might not be this bad. But if never

      Spoke to anyone with depression and she like to know how anyone

      Else lives with it. Mandy x

    • laura08496
      laura08496 mandy99761

      Posted

      a day is a long time! besides checking on my dad (he lives downstairs), i spend my days doing too much thinking, too much worrying. i wake early, after a restless night, light a cigarette and turn on that darn television. i watch it so much! but i'm not always interested in what i'm watching. i sigh alot, and do it loud. i have a ton of crap in my apartment. i hold on to old things and memories like i'll never have them again. i live in a fog as much as i can cause anything is better than anxiety and fear. i dont know what will become of me once everyone dies off. i'll be alone. well, no one knows for sure...life has thrown me some nice surprizes. it doesn't seem that way now. depression unfortunately makes me look at things at a dreadful angle. strangely, i do have moments of hope. they come back on their own. i'm usually afraid of feeling good things because they never seem to last. and yet, i know great things ARE possible. i just take care of myself the best way i'm able to. thats all i can do. i am in therapy, that gets me out of the house and driving a bit. so i do take showers, and make myself presentable. sometimes i pray. but i get a lot of comfort knowing i am not alone in my feelings. the more i share, the more i understand many are going through the same thing. and i work on acceptance. some things we are not able to change. i like your idea about getting a dog. that would be great for you, to take it out on walks and meeting other dog lovers. i think you should do it. it could change everything for you. consider it! always best wishes, laura x

    • abraham62199
      abraham62199 laura08496

      Posted

      I  have writen 4 long pieces and accidently deleted them accidently so I am now more depressed. So I am having a few glasses of wine to loose myself. today has been a long day it started last night when torrential rain flooded my basement and ruined my stuff. I will now have to face an insurance estimator that for me will be a nightmare.. have a good peaceful night y`all. Iive in Manchester UK.
  • Wilb
    Wilb mandy99761

    Posted

    No one understands depression or anxiety until they experience! I have had 5 episodes of depression and I am a 68 yr old female! Each time I have survived and it has made me a stronger person! I was on 10 mil of Lexapro for 10 yrs and it suddenly pooped out, so my GP upped the dose to 20 which I had to lower to 15mil! I have been on this for 8 weeks and can see some improvement, but not what I would like! I am also seeing a therapist and hopefully they will refer me to a psychiatrist for a med evaluation! Hope you find relief soon!
    • mandy99761
      mandy99761 Wilb

      Posted

      Hi thanks for your message. It is good to know people like

      Yourself are out there. I'm glad you at least feel a bit better. It's

      Really tough isn't it. Mandy

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