I'm 47 and have had no period since I was 39

Hi Debra. You sound like me. But I breezed through peri. I stopped my period in 2010. Had no symptoms until 2014 but they weren't bad.

This year has been a nightmare. Acne, severe depression, I also feel the same about the dying thing, gums are tender, no appetite(lost 20 pounds). Cannot focus at my job. After twelve years of doing it the same way they completely changed everything and it's awful. You are never finished. After my Supervisor noticed I wasn't myself and called me in her office to ask me if I was okay. I had a meltdown and they put me on FMLA leave for a month. I'm due back January 2, 2019. I'm no where close to being ready to return. I'm like you, I'm on the other end of the scale I'm 59.

HI juanita - i know that we have similar stories since i have followed your posts. i help my husband with his business, but i just do bookkeeping type stuff @ home. Frankly, there is no way i could keep a job feeling the way that i do. If i run errands or work for a bit, i have to lay down for a bit - i dont think that would fly in a regular job. This is interesting that you say you have no appetite. i put on the lbs during peri & am still overweight, but lately i wake up super nauseous and nothing sounds good to me. i dont believe i have lost weight but do find this new symptom interesting. i have always woken up super hungry, but not now - do you suffer from knee/tendon soreness? its really bad for me - Gosh i hope we are at the end of this nightmare. Take care -

hi juanita - when you say acne...is it rosacea? cuz i have been living with that little gem ever since about 5 years ago - so not fair!

Oh no it's acne. Whiteheads, little tiny bumps on my forehead, and sometimes the pimples get so big I have to pop them. Hooray for menopause! Not!😂😂

Usually it's my left knee, but it hasn't been bad lately. Earlier this year I would get up and it was like the bottoms of my feet and my Achilles heel would be sore. Ugh! Food doesn't taste like it used to. I think ours tastebuds take a vacation during menopause too.

OmG juanita - its my right knee & the bottoms of my feet & achilles tendons always kill me - you would think i was an exercise junkie with all my aches & pains - UGH! Sorry about your acne...but i have a red flushed face most days - UGH! Tastebuds shot! Nothing sounds good, i exist on soup & scrambled eggs, but cant really taste any of it! Just wish i'd lose the weight!

Well, take heart, the sore feet and Achilles tendon thing did go away. Food tastes okay. I have to force it down. Right now I'm dealing with depression, muscle spasms, weird gum sensations, most days it's like 3pm before I get out of bed. I'm on leave from work right now. Don't know how I'm going to huh o back. I know this is all a process.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but I'm glad for this forum.

Tell me, do you feel like you're dying some days?

hi juanita - well thats good to hear about the achy feet & tendon thing...my knee makes me crazy with discomfort - if it doesnt get better i will have it xrayed -

i have felt really bad somedays with my physical symptoms so bad that i felt like i had something else going on besides menopause &every new thing like elevated inflammation & elevated glucose does make me go to the worse case scenario -

i think for me the emotional issues of menopause - anxiety, feeling down & now this doom & gloom of OmG am i dying thing has really thrown me for a loop cuz i was never that person before. i worry about everything & my life is getting smaller - i found an excuse not to go to one christmas function - crazy, eh?

The emotional issues have been the worse for me too, especially this year. A good friend has managed to drag me to a few things. I'm ashamed to admit I spent yesterday in bed. I was going to do all my chores and go to Church. Today its Christmas Eve, I was going to do the chores I put off and go to Christmas Eve service this evening. Guess where I am? In the bed. I'm not tired, I just don't know what's wrong. I used to be so happy and upbeat. I miss that person, and I want her back. I'm afraid l won't find her again. I pray all the time. God, this forum, and my friend have been my saving grace.

No not crazy, that you didn't go to any Christmas functions. Like I said I have a friend that talked to me into doing a few things. I've been off work since Nov. 28. Am ready to return Jan. 2, 2019? No! The job is not helping my situation at all.

Thank you Debra. Merry Christmas to you to you too.🎅