I'm afraid to go outside :(

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I'm a 16 years old shy guy, i don't enjoy socializing and when i do i feel absolutely exhausted and drained of energy afterwards, i like to work only in a quiet environment, i get panicked in overcrowded places,i RARELY go outside because when i do people stare at me and i feel like there's something wrong with me..

also my parents hate me because i have NO friends to hang out with.. they keep trying to change me and it really hurts, it makes me feel like I'm not the wanted son.. i mean they treat me like i have some sort of disease. All i want from them is to leave me alone, it's my f* business sad I just want to know, is there anything wrong with me because everyone tries to change me sad

P.S: When i say i hate people who stare at me i don't mean just a simple quick 3 seconds eye contact i mean they STARE AT ME for a long time! especially in my neighbourhood, And when they do i panic! Some of them stare at me and they look like they're holding back their laughter and when i pass they start laughing! then i start asking myself what's wrong with me? Is it because of my acne?am i walking in an improper form? Is it because I'm too skinny? Am i ugly? Even so if I'm ugly are they gonna laugh at me and say"look at that ugly a$$ kid he's so f* ugly! Look at him and laugh!" It's just too hard for me! I just like to stay in my room read books,draw,watch some tv shows and stay alone

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    To me it sounds like you have an introverted personality, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people just do not like to go out all the time, and that it perfectly normal. Honestly, next time your parents give you crap for staying home ask them if they rather you be out at a party drinking. Ignore people who try to change you, don't change because there is nothing wrong with being you. 

    Also, it helpes me to think of it this way when people stare at me in public. Who cares what they think anyway? You will never see that random stranger ever again, so who cares if they think you are creepy or ugly or whatever. For example, I had thyroid surgery which left me wiith a weird ugly scar on my neck (I am a 14 year old girl by the way) Sometimes little kids at the mall I don't know get scared of me or I get weird looks. But who is some random stranger to judge me or you? To hell with them, they are just random people you never will even talk to so who cares what they think.

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      I just want to know why does that kind of people exist anyway?They're just a bunch of miserable low-lives who love to ruin other people's life to make themselves feel good.

      It feels very clichéd to say "just be yourself and don't care about others" because no matter how hard i try to do that it doesn't work sad

      Anyway i really appreciate your help, Thanks.

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      I know it's certainly easier said then done but, to be honest even though some people do judge you, most don't because to them you are also just some random stranger that they will forget about tomorrow. Just don't worry too much about what they think because if they really took the time and effort out of their day to make a judgement on you they are pretty pathetic to not have anything better to do with their time thus you shouldn't give any thought  to pathetic people's opinions of you. If that makes any sense.
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    You sound like a typical introvert; there's nothing wrong with that at all, my partner is an introvert!  Introverts tend to be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and minimize their contact with other people. My partner doesn't like mixing with people she doesn't know, talking to strangers or even having to phone to make an appointment or speak to someone from the energy company, she hates it! Don't overthink the people who stare, you could be getting slightly paranoid about it and assuming they are all making fun of you, I've been there and it's a dangerous trap to fall into. Don't let people change you either, if you're an introvert then that's fine, you don't do going out with friends, going to parties, getting drunk etc, that's not your lifestyle and everyone else will have to deal with it. Your parents don't hate you, they just don't understand, they probably think going out and hanging with friends all the time is normal, and anything that challenges that is abnormal. Explain to them you are an introvert, it's perfectly normal and you are happy that way, pay no attention to idiots who stare and laugh, who cares what they think? I bet you don't walk funny, and acne isn't funny, it's normal, who laughs at acne? I know I don't find it remotely amusing. Keep your head high friend, you are who you are, nevermind about everyone else, you are a normal person with different interests, as the saying goes; it takes all sorts.
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    Hello nendo99072, I have the same problem, I am scared to go outside as I feel everyone is looking at me like I'm some kind of alien!! I also feel that people hold back laughter when I see them or speak to them and it has messed me up so much to the point that I have had to move back with my parents to get some professional help! 

    It's easy for people to say just ignore them, they are nothing but it's the hardest thing in the world as you feel like you will never have a life!

    But don't let things get you down and you be the person you want to be. You know yourself better than anyone. Have you sat down and spoke to your parents and told them how you feel? Mine struggled at first but now they understand and are amazingly supportive. You be true to yourself and even if you might feel as though someone is laughing, just think to yourself, they are nothing to you and have no importance in your life. Surround yourself with people that make you feel happy and who are kind people and forget about the idiots out there who are so insecure with themselves that they feel they have to try and ruin everyone else's day.

    Keep strong, keep fighting, you are strong and you can and will overcome this in time. 

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    Nah, I'm a girl and I can tell you that I stare at cute or hot guys( I think all girls only stare at really attractive people, when we walk past them we squeel and smile like crazy, yes and laugh) well unless you have an unusually huge mole or something people will just stare at you for a few seconds and just mind their own business or some people(me) just zone out while walking and accidentally stare at people. Most girls don't judge what you wear (nobody does) just stand confidently and proudly(they won't notice the clothes you wear). If they do judge then who cares, it's not like your life depends on their opinions, it's not like you're going to marry them and be with them for the rest of your life. You might be an introvert, introverts tend to like their alone time more then others, you get more out of being alone unlike an extrovert who thrives on attention. Being in parties or long conversation drains you out and you need your alone time to recharge but it doesn't mean you have to go out of your way to be crazy active or anything, I have an introvert friend and she'sreally interesting (her personality I mean) I'm 2 years late so I hope by now you're much more comfortable with yourself smile I'm not an expert sorry.

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