I’m having a hard time dealing...So confused
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I don’t want to spam with multiple posts but I thought I would post again just to ask specific questions. I’m still having a hard time wrapping my mind around this diagnosis. I feel confused and I have a lot of questions in my mind. I know it’s nearly impossible to know who from and when I got HSV 2. But all signs point to this being my first outbreak. I’ve never had symptoms before in the past. Like I mentioned in my previous posts, I’ve been dealing with the same person for nearly a year and they have no symptoms. He just got tested today and he’s not responding to my text messages at all. Which I don’t blame him , he’s processing everything still. My heart is telling me to trust him but my gut is telling me he’s lying and part of him must know...My first question is can somebody with with HSV 1 give somebody HSV-2 or can you only give somebody the same type you have? I have HSV 2. My second question is, is it possible he could have symptoms in the future although he has no symptoms right now and never has? How accurate is a blood test? Keep in mind we been having unprotected sex pretty much daily for like 8 months and rough sex at times. We’ve also been having oral. With that being said, is there a possibility he could still not have it? On the off chance that I have it and he doesn’t ? Would that even make sense . What’s the likelihood that he has it? Sorry if these questions might seem repetitive . Just here trying to cope
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Skye03680 newyorkbby_
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have you gotten a blood test? herpes antibodies take time to develop. the lower the number the more recent the exposure to the virus.. my blood draw was .54 which is technically a negative result but my swab came back positive so i am accepting my fate. i will redraw in 4 months just to see where my numbers are..i had not been active for 8 weeks prior to my exposure. my doctor is confidant that if i had been exposed prior to my assault my antibodies would be higher.. for me this was enough to pin point my gifter..
as far as your other questions, i am unsure..hang in there.. we are all here to support you.
newyorkbby_ Skye03680
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i thought the blood test they were doing was for that but they told me on the phone that they didn't test for that. I don't have a primary doctor at the moment, which is why i ended up in the ER. My insurance kicks in October 1st, should i just go back to the hospital and ask for the blood test or should i visit a free clinic? I want the answers to these questions but also terrified at the possibility that i had this longer than my relationship with him. I think i also scared him away .. I took the informative no big deal approach at first when i broke the news to him, but i still accused him a little just out of anger because he kept saying he always gets tested and he has no symptoms, being real ignorant . I have not heard from him all day sigh It sucks that i feel so much guilt and i'm feeling like he will never want to talk to me or be with me again when he could very well be positive aswell. This whole thing is stressful and mentally draining .
Skye03680 newyorkbby_
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I will say this experience has given me a totally different outlook on clinics and Planned Parenthood. My primary care physician just looked at it said oh it’s herpes and gave me medicine and sent me on my way. He didn’t do any testing he didn’t provide me any information on my new diagnosis nothing. Well that was not a good enough answer for me so I made an appointment with Planned Parenthood the following day. Turns out I also had a high bacteria grows in my vagina that was causing some other symptoms. My doctor completely missed that. They also gave me some lidocaine cream which My doctor didnt even offer..
it definitely makes me rethink funding and I don’t know where I would be if I had not had the accessibility to that service.
newyorkbby_ Skye03680
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yeah the hospital was kind of the same way when they gave me my results they didn’t even try to provide me any information at all, she was kind a like OK you’re positive ,have a good day. I was like but wait what do I do next and she’s like you need to contact your primary care doctor and I’m like obviously I don’t have one if I went to the emergency room. I have a few days off from work so I’m gonna look into going to a clinic. I heard that Planned Parenthood charges per visit when you don't have insurance (atleast here in ny) I don’t think that they’re one of the ones that offer a sliding scale but I need to call them and I guess do my research. on the bright side I am feeling 100% better, All my sores have completely gone away , it’s almost like they were never there in the first place which is kind of tripping me out. I really want to look into suppressive treatment. even though I’m feeling 100% better down there, I woke up feeling very depressed today, still no word from my boyfriend he’s been completely ignoring me since yesterday . I guess it’s time to just let him go. I just never thought he would turn his back on me on a time like this, I feel so alone.
sam35005 newyorkbby_
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newyorkbby_ sam35005
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Um yeah I don’t think I have to worry about giving it to him if he doesn’t have it because
-I highly doubt we will be having sex for a very very long time or ever again ): It’s not that I don’t want to, I still wanna be with him. I think were both just freaked out right now and feeling down about it.
-I finally spoke to him last night and he basically apologized for going MIA but said that he just needed time to himself to process everything. He seems convinced that he has it as well even though he doesn’t have any symptoms. I think its just the fact that we had sex pretty much everyday for months. that would be bugged out if i had it and he didn't. That's the thing about this bugged out condition , its COMPLICATED.
-I don’t think he knew that he had this prior because he’s so misinformed and so ignorant about it and I told him to do research and that seems to freaking out even more. I told him maybe he isn't mature enough to be having these conversations right now . I'm going to give him space and time and hopefully he will reach out with his test results
newyorkbby_
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Hey guys , posting in here again because I have some questions. So I had one day of relief after my OB started to subside. All my sores went away, it no longer hurt to pee and although I had some itching it was bearable. I’m back at work today and the itching is soo unbearable. Yesterday I took like 3 showers just so I could have some relief and I washed down there with some antibacterial scentless soap. Well I think I may have scrubbed too hard or irritated something because I had to pee while I was in the shower and maybe it was the way I was standing (legs slightly closed and not wide open) but it started to burn when I peed. Omg I just about lost my mind.. But this morning when I peed there was no burning , just this horrible itching. Maybe it’s all in my head but it feels like my whole body has the itches. Also I noticed one of my sores that had been healing looked slightly inflamed, I took a photo of it and it did look worrying. I literally only have one antiviral pill left, as I mentioned before my insurance goes into affect October. Even if I get over to a free clinic, I will have to pay for the prescription out of pocket. I’m trying not to stress out but I am stressed!!
i found this website called HelloWisp that gives prescriptions for valacyclovir and acyclovir without the doctor visits but I’m skeptical about it, anybody used this site before?