I’m in a total pathetic mess

sonia you arent alone i feel exactly the same, sending hugs x

Hi Sonia,

I'm new here and recently terrified if all the horrible things happening to my body and mind! From just a few of the posts I have read so far, there are a lot of us suffering. Please know you're not alone x

Absolutely not alone. I have waves of multiple debilitating symptoms (all of those you list and more) every few months it seems. I seem to recover and feel more like the old me and then suddenly I find myself feeling dreadful again. I'm on HRT and it does help but it doesn't solve everything and it requires review and adjustment.

I describe my menopause journey as a roller coaster. It's so up and down.

Hello Sonia

Most of the ladies on here including myself have either gone through or feeling the same as you and i know exactly what you mean, i was so independent and now i rely on my husband to drive me anywhere i dont want to and im unsociable and rather be on my own as i always feel ill.

iv been going through this for the last 8 year and i must say this year several of the horrible symptoms like you've mentioned has eased off or not as intense or maybe iv just got used to some.

its an horrendous time for us all and no man could possibly understand as its daily.

just relish the day that is ok

sending you a comforting hug

I hear you, and completely understand how you feel. A week ago the tinnitus suddenly took on a new tone and now I have to re-habituate. I am so sleep-deprived. But for me, the main thing is not to start delving and panicking -- once I start asking things like why me, or will this ever end, it all starts going downhill. Adding that kind of psychological despair into the mix makes everything at least fifty times worse for me. Thinking of worst-case scenarios is the killer and there has to be a limit to the continual medical investigations. I know I have to keep the right perspective -- in the grand scheme, everything isn't permanent and we're here for so short a time. So I keep working on smiling more, and laughing more, focusing on my blessings and trying to find humour in the situation even when I feel totally crap. Please take comfort from the fact that you are NOT alone. You can write me on here anytime ❤️

I feel the same way about driving, it's horrible. I used to drive everywhere now I only go places if my husband drives. I guess I'm afraid I'll freak out driving because of anxiety. My anxiety gets really bad the week before my period. I get terrible shortness of breath before my period. I get winded real easy and it sucks. I just try to move forward but the driving anxiety is bad. I drive sometimes close distances to my home and I get anxiety. I sometimes feel like just driving and having the anxiety and saying to heck with it, but I always sike myself out. I find myself not really wanting to be around people, and I was very social before. I haven't been to the gym in 2 weeks and I'm finding it hard to go back. I'm going to try to force myself to go back tomorrow. I just have no motivation and am tired all the time. All I can say is hang in there. But for some reason I think it's all down hill from here.