I'm living in hell

you can talk to me. don't suffer alone.

Dear Kaoutary,

Please don't think you are alone,i am sure somebody you know will,at least hear you out.Give it a t

You must try and see a professional.If you check with your GP,you will normally find that at least one of them specialises in mental health.

Remember you have nothing to lose,all to gain.

Best wishes,

Richard.

Hi !! Nice to meet you.

It's true everyone has their own problems, but have you ever noticed everyone talks about them all the time? People like you and me, with depression and anxiety tend to think that nobody cares about what we are feeling and thinking because we usually minimize ourselves and think we are not the same as everyone else. But this isn't true at all! The thing is, there's always someone (can be family or a close friend) who is going through the same thing or that cares about you a lot and wants to see you doing good. On the other hand, people who don't go through the same things as we do, find it hard to understand what we are thinking and feeling... Virtual friends can help loaaaads !!! So you can talk to poeple like me, even if it's behind a screen, sharing and relating to someone can really help. Believe me, you are not alone and things DO actually get better.

Dear kaoutar77620, Many people don't understand depression or anxiety. A lot of people also think that seeing a professional is a magic cure. It isn't. I had months of counselling, antidepressants and even saw a psychiatrist. In 9 months I lost six people I loved, got cancer & was being bullied. The first two deaths were my hubby who I met at 15 (now in my 60s) and second our grandson, 3. There was a lot of other nasty stuff too. Besides the deaths, I lost my health, my job, my home.... everything. I had a breakdown in 2015 after tough times, and never got over that. I had another last year because of the above. The trouble is that people want to be seen to be doing the right thing but don't know how. They think they understand but they don't and get frustrated when you don't improve. Sometimes, there IS no solution, or one that you don't want. It often isn't that they don't care, but almost 'give up' when they don't know what else to do or say. What they don't understand is that just showing they care and are not bored of us spouting the same awful stuff all the time can be enough. While nothing has worked for me, it doesn't mean it does not work for everyone...there are a lot of things out there to help you. For me, I find one thing that does help is poetry. I write my own but also read those of others on a facebook poetry site. It gives me a way to escape, to see other's points of view etc. I don't know why you feel the way you do because you don't say....but do think about what makes you down, what lifts you and see if there are other groups that can help you. This is one such group, and you have had offers from those willing to talk to you, my friend, so make good use of that. The one thing last year taught me is that life is short and unpredictable and it is up to each of us to make use of it as we think is appropriate. Good luck Kaotar77620.

Talk to someone about it. Someone close like a family member or friend. There is always at least one person you can talk to about your problems.