I'm so depressed I don't even know what to do
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I dont know what to I know I am depressed but Im telling you I cant go to the doctors and say I am please dont tell me to do that and I cant talk to someone about this its just not me. I mean I really cant!!
Im 20 years old I support myself and my mum I have been stripping for 3 years now and other things too just to provide for me and her no one else helps me. Only now i have realised how bad i have messed up my life and now my past seems to just haunt me and it will never go away i have slowed down on the drinking and taking drugs now but my depression is severe I just want to sleep all day I have so many issues and problems that no one know about and I have seemed to lost all my friends now. I have such anxiety I cant do the basic of things like talk to people properly go to the shops etc etc the only reason i could is with the drinking. I cant get a normal job because i have no confidence and even if i did it wouldnt be enough to pay all of the rent and bills myself. I feel so trapped and sometimes I blame my mum because no one at all helps me and i have had to do such things just to get by and know one knows. We cant even get benefits because my mum is in arrears with the council and now its got worse i told her ill pay it and she said no and she keeps running awayfrom her problems and now she relys on me so much but she hs no idea what i do.
Please i just dont know what to do anymore i just feel sick with myself all the time i just want this feeling to go away and forget my past but please dont tell me to talk to someone or go to the doctors because i phycially cant is there no way there are non prescription drugs that can help! please just for now
thanks
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jimmy1979 lolamun
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linda83143l lolamun
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Were you heavily into drink and drugs?
Did you do this to help you strip, relax you, take you out of reality?
You feel totally responsible for your mother, you are just 20. Your mother isn't being responsible to herself and you. You are NOT responsible for your mother she is old enough to cope or seek help.
You should be enjoying your life not living under all this stress.
In time your rent arrears will lead to eviction.
Has your mother been spending housing benefit money?
Be responsible for you and your actions and let your mother understand that with every action or non action there are consequences.
Wish I could hug you, try a small step a day.
Example one day get up, get dressed and do a small walk, watch tv, try a little step a day
With love, hope and you can message me anytime, just click on the envelope ✉. Xx Linda
lolamun linda83143l
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I know but she makes me feel bad because she says theres nothing she can do untill she gets a job and she hasnt had one for years. And I feel like If I push her she will break down so id rather hold the stress instead of her shes 58 and I dont want anything to happen to her.
What happend was something messed up with our benefits and they wernt paying our landlord I think because i turned 18 and was not in education so my mum didnt want to cause them stress so this made us intentionally homeless.
Thank you so much for your support I didnt really know there are people out there that are nice enough to give me support I really appriciate it
xxx
anne240 lolamun
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I don't know what else to suggest. Difficult if you don't want to talk to anybody. I think it is nice to get support, perhaps from a relative or close friend. I understand you do not like talking to people, and do not want to see a doctor, but I am not sure you can deal with this on your own.
Unfortunately depression is a very serious illness. It won't just go away. If you have true clinical depression, then you need help. If you are depressed because of circumstances, and it is not the illness, then it may go away. Only a doctor can diagnose if you have clinical depression, which is different to "feeling depressed."
Well you say please don't ask you to talk to someone or see a doctor, but what do you want us to suggest? We will listen, and give advice, but we cannot help any more than that. Keep posting here if it helps.
worthe lolamun
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Don't fight this battle alone as it'll where you out in the end.
Sorry to come over all preachy with you but I tried to bottle up my problems for years. Did me no good just ended up with depression, anxiety, psychosis, personality disorders and the feeling of be utterly alone. I broke down completely and have only started to get better sinse I was forced to see someone.
Please take care of yourself
Worthe
medxrx lolamun
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Mood disorders and alcohol dependence frequently co-occur. In other words, people who have substance abuse disorders as well as mental health disorders are diagnosed as having co-occurring disorders, or dual disorders. For example, a substance use disorder includes alcohol or drug abuse, alcohol or drug dependence.
Unfortunately, it is common for someone to reach for a drink because they want to change how they feel. Some want to feel relaxed, some had a bad day at work, and others to celebrate, also known as social drinking. What becomes a matter of concern is that many people drink attempt to mask anxiety or depression.
While alcohol can have a very temporary positive impact on a person’s mood, the long term effects can cause big problems for our mental health. It’s linked to issues starting with depression, memory loss and suicide.
Although you refuse to get some help by a medically licensed professional, I feel compelled to write this to you. There are many people that feel as you do and unfortunately focus on drinking or drugs in order to self-medicate or to cope with affective symptoms. You state that you function better if under the influence of alcohol. For many the simple task of going shopping to a mall is just that, a simple task. You need to know that your situation is not uncommon and you are not alone.
We all have fears, some get weak prior to a job interview or if having to give a speech, this is usually common in people. What you seem to describe and by no means am I making a diagnosis but rather, am giving you information based on my readings and my work as a medical exercise specialist/nutritionist.
Social phobia is more than just a little bit of shyness or occasional nerves. Social anxiety disorder, where you are afraid of embarrassing yourself becomes so intense that you avoid situations that can trigger it, thus turning to alcohol or drugs to calm that fear.
While it may seem like there’s nothing you can do about the symptoms of social anxiety disorder or social phobia, in reality, there are many things that can help. It starts with understanding the problem.
There are a variety of ways to help ease social phobia, however, lifestyle changes alone aren’t enough to overcome social phobia or social anxiety disorder, they can support your overall treatment progress.
I know several clients that suffered from the severe anxiety you write about, and it came close to destroying their lives in one way or another. In their cases they were placed on a medication specifically to help their symptoms – and they turned their lives around. Social phobia can be so debilitating and it’s awful, but what is worse is not getting properly treated.
You seem to have been put in some bad predicaments and although you may feel as though you have destroyed your life? You have your whole life ahead of you, and you can change it and do whatever you want to do, be whoever you would like to be but if you do not seek professional advice it could continue to lead you down the wrong path in terms of self-medicating.
You seem to be the one that helps everyone and you are responsible of having to look after your mother as well. You need to look after YOU, and you can do it, and there are many people here that care enough to see you through it. I wish I could give you a magical answer and if I could find one that didn’t involve medical intervention, believe me I would let you know what it is so that you can get the help you need.
Educating yourself can also be very helpful as there are many exercises you can do in order to help ease some of your symptoms but I hope you will help yourself by having this looked at – you do not have to live like this, you can and will get better. Could explain why you are adamant about not getting help? If you have concerns, please ask any questions you like, may be some of us can help put your mind at ease.
Please let us know how you are doing,
Big hugs coming your way, H.
Redus1978 lolamun
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I hope you can feel better
linda83143l lolamun
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UK-Ven-medicate lolamun
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* Is there anyone else that can help family or partners ?
* Can you get help from your GP ?
* Are you able to still keep your exisiting job ?
* Where are you based ? You could get advice from your local NHS Trust and also support groups.
* Your worried you can't get a normal job, what skills set do you have ? PM me and I will try to help if you want with a CV or something. But this would be a step in the right direction and may help you decide what training you need and what you can do. I bet you could get another job
* Benefits - I am not sure Why you cant get benefits cause your mums in arrears, benefits are there to help you get out of the problems. I would get an appoint ment with CAB, also let your GP know as they can report on how its effecting your health too.
If there is anything I or anyone else can do to help you you just need to ask, but you are the Queen and in control as its your life and decisions
linda83143l lolamun
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UK-Ven-medicate linda83143l
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jess50479 lolamun
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I hope you get well soon x
marywarner777 lolamun
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anne240 lolamun
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PaulJTurner1964 lolamun
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A person who uses the alcohol forum and this depression forum pointed me in the direction of your post.