I'm so scared. Could the doctor be wrong?

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My only sexual partner has been my husband for the last 4 years, I am his only sexual partner of 14 years. I recently tried a new feminine wash (labeled for sensitive skin because I'm super sensitive to everything). I am prone to BV and yeast infections. Never had an abnormal pap.

Ihad some internal itching about a week ago and picked up some Monistat 3. I itched really hard at several points (my husband thinks I scratched myself).

About 4 days ago i noticed pain when urinating. No other time. My husband checked for me and saw what look like ulcers/chancres. I have NEVER had anything like this before. No blisters, nothing before these sores showed up. They are right at my urethra, so it burns whenever urine passes over them.

Went to the doctor today and he hadn't looked yet and asked if I had a cough about 2 weeks ago. I said yes and he said "really?!" I always have a cough (smoker). He took a look, swabbed, and then left me to dress. When he came back he started telling me about how people usually get coughs/cold symptoms about 2 weeks before a Herpes outbreak. I expressed to him that I've never had any kind of sores and he explained the dormancy, etc. I said I've been screened for a full panel of STDs after my ex cheated on me and he explained the unreliability of blood tests. He started me on antiviral, but won't get the results for a week. He said if it's negative, he thinks that he will have just missed the window and statistically speaking, I likely have herpes. He didn't ask about any new soaps, didn't ask about any other symptoms except the cough...I almost fell like he made up his mind before he looked.

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Is there a possibility that is not herpes?

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  • Posted

    This resembles Herpes, like your doctor said it can lie dormant for years. Blood test are usually reliable if it's an IGG type specific test and is taken at least 3 months after exposure, since you've been with your partner for so long it would be hard to pinpoint when the exposure possibly happened especially if there is infidelity. If he doesn't have any symptoms have him take an IGG blood test for type one and two. Well wishes to you.

    • Posted

      Thank you. I actually decided not to take the antivirals at this time and it cleared itself up on it's own already.

      The reason I was worried is because the doctor told me that the IGG test won't tell me anything except if I have antibodies and proceeded to tell me that the swab test may be negative, but that he still thinks it is herpes.

      Based on the fact that I had scratched myself, I didn't have a blister stage at all, didn't have tingling before it came up, and it went away without any crusting at all (and went away so quickly without antivirals), I think he may have been incorrect in his diagnosis.

    • Posted

      Yes, the swab test could come back negative as something else but you still might have antibodies for Hsv which a lot of Americans do. If the sores occur again I highly recommend getting swabbed and taking an IGG blood test.

    • Posted

      They called today and said the swab was positive. 😞 I hate to think that I brought this with me into our marriage.

    • Posted

      How would you know that you brought it in the marriage? It's merely a skin condition and your outbreak seems so mild. You'll be fine. Well wishes to you

    • Posted

      herpes is truly no big deal. you see firsthand how little of a problem it's been for at least the last four years of your life.. hasn't shown itself to you or your husband until now!

      it's incredibly easy to acquire, that's why so many people have it. if they don't have hsv-2, they likely have hsv-1, if they don't have either they likely have some strain of HPV. my point is, everyone has something, we touch, kiss, lick, hug, and thats how these skin based viruses are transmitted. no big deal at all.

    • Posted

      Thank you. I feel that statistically speaking, it was probably me. My husband hadn't slept with anyone for 10 years before he met me. I really think if it was him, he would have had an outbreak somewhere in there. He said that he could easily have been the one and that it could have been dormant, though.

    • Posted

      Thank you for the words of wisdom. The stigma is just so great with STDs.

  • Posted

    hello, i am on the same phase rn and i am worrying a lot. how many days or weeks until it cleared up without taking any medications?

  • Posted

    i'm on the same phase rn and i am worrying a lott. but then, how many days or weeks until it cleared up on its own?

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