I'm so stressed. What should I do?

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I started texting with a guy on Facebook that had several of my friends as his friends. Be both had graduated from the same high school. We hit it off really well. So we decided to meet in person. So we went on a date. The date went really well. We talked laughed and had a great time. We ended up seeing each other the next couple of days. From there I started to go over a couple of days a week to stay with him. I live an hour away. And cause he works late it's easier for me to go visit him. Right off the bat he told me all about his issues. He never said PTSD. Just the problems he has being around people. Meeting people and going through depression that causes him to isolate himself. At that time I was ok, I thought i could help cause I deal with my own depression as well. But one day he had gotten so upset with me over something I had said. i learned then that he doesn't like to be told that he's a great guy. I can't say I think he's a wonderful man.

We ended it that evening cause I just didn't understand why he was so upset with me. A week and a half later I went to visit him. He was happy to see me. He told me he didn't think I would ever go back. I told him I was worried about him and was checking up on him since I was in town. We ended up getting back together. And he wanted me to promise that we would go at it slow and for me to please be patient with him. I told him I'd rather go slow than to lose him. I even told him I wasn't gonna go see him unless he invited me over. Well a week later I was so upset cause I missed him. I texted him and told him I didn't like feeling like I was alone. That if he thought dating once a month was good enough for him that it wasn't for me and that I was gonna have to think things over. He texted me back saying he was sorry that he is used to being alone and that he likes me a lot. And that he did miss me. And he did want to date me. I just texted him saying I was sorry that it was just me missing him. I asked him to come over this weekend since he's off that I was gonna have a few people over for a BBQ. And he's having a hard time deciding on whether to come or not. I know it's hard on him. But I want him to come see me too. I told him I really do like him a lot but I want to be held, cuddled and kissed. I miss him but I don't know if I can handle being away all the time. I have read the book he's not that into you, and although he texts me morning, lunch breaks and at night. I don't know if he really is into me. When we are together he always seems so happy and we have a good time. Once a week is hard for me. He told me one day that he was getting to comfortable with me that it was scaring him. I just don't want to give it my all and end up getting dumped. I'm so confused on what I should do. I care so much about him just knowing him this short time. He treats me like a queen! He's so gentle and caring. He makes me feel so special. But why can't he just say he wants me to go over. It's like I have to find a reason to go over. Ugh!! What do I do?

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    It is so hard when your life is in limbo. He may not be capable of loving you the way you may want. And that means you may be always putting more effort into the relationship.

    Either way, you are not going to be happy. i think you should count your loses and let it go. Sad Really. but what other options do you have? It sucks. I am sorry you are going through this emotional roller coaster. Hugs

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