I'm still grieving my cousins death and I don't know if I can cope anymore

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My cousin and I were extremely close, she was more like my sister. She died very unexpectedly last April, so it's been over a year, but it's not getting any easier. It still hurts knowing I'm never gonna see her again. It was recently my 18th birthday and she was supposed to be there to celebrte with me, and I can't cope anymore

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    H Ed,

    I'm so sorry that your cousin died so suddenly and has left you feeling so hurt. Special occasions are often difficult when we're still grieving such difficult loses and something as special as an 18th birthday, as you have acknowledged, can be really tough.

    I'm wondering if your family are aware how much this still hurts you? can you talk to them about it? Sometimes it can be hard to talk to people close to us. I feel that maybe talking to the doctor and explaining how you feel and asking if there is anything they suggest and/or looking locally for a bereavement service such as cruise? They offer a befriending service with people who know how hard it can be when we lose someone so close.

    I hope this helps

    Best wishes

    Beverley

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    I'm so sorry. I completely understand what you're feeling. There's a big difference in our ages , I'm 70yrs , but believe me the grief is no different. My wife of 40yrs died 13 months ago. I feel I have nothing left. I live alone and most of my friends have either died or living with their children. Now my doctor is telling me that my grieving and depression is affecting my health. We both need more help than we can get here. But here is a great place to tell people ? Who really care , what you are going through. It may not help you but it helps me to tell someone what I feel. I guess my next move is a therapist before I let this do any more damage

    And I hope , with all my heart , that you do the same. I'm not sure if it'll help but I'm going to try.youre you and you have your whole life ahead of you. You deserve all the help anyone can give.

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    Hello Ed,  I am sorryto hear of your loss.  The death of your cousin has viously hit very hard.  I hope you might find someone you can share what you are going through with.  I immagine that as you were so close, her death was always going to be hard but it being sudden will make it even harder.  Do ask for support. And try to believe that you will feel better eventually.  One day you may be comforted knowing that you have had this special person in your life. I hope things get easier for you soon. 
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    Hello, I wonder, did u ever find anything to help you with the grief?

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