I'm tired of life, with little reason, not dramatic - just 'done'...

My goodness me, for the first time in my life I have found someone able to articulate my exact same feelings. It's like an emptiness, a lack of drive, not a sadness as such, just complete lack of purpose. And as you so rightly say, all the imprecations of others, like looking at your blessings etc, have the opposite effect. Makes us feel even worse about moaning or complaining. I don't have an answer, and i very much doubt that there IS an answer. At least I know now that I am not alone. Thank you.

I have been afflicted with these feelings and issues for the vast majority of my life. I find myself falling into the same self defeating patterns that you describe and having a lackluster outlook on life and living in general. But I remember the times when I was happy, the times when things seemed to make sense and feel right. There were certain conditions being met in all of those circumstances, not all at once or in any particular order but those conditions were as follows.

1. Doing something constructive with a tangible and productive outcome.

2. Doing something that immidiately benifeits myself or someone I care about.

3. Doing something that has lasting positive benifeits and effects on my own living conditions or those of someone I care about.

4. Doing something new and challenging that I beleive will lead to tangible positive effects for myself and or others.

After analyizing these conditions for happyness in me I realized that these are the things that human beings are meant to do. We are meant to seek personal or familial enrichment through hard work and adventure seeking. In the days of our ancestors when the work that you did gave a direct result of how good your life was it was easy to find fulfillment. When we were able to strike out into the world and make it as we saw fit with our own 2 hands and imaginations for ourselvs and our loved ones we were fulfilling our purpose and thus had no reason to be depressed. It is this modern societal construct that is failing us, Human beings were not meant to live in this way! We were not meant to be shackled by any rules, laws and obligations that we did not choose for ourselves! I want to point at a horizon and go as far and as fast as i can in that direction then settle down any damn place i please to nurture myself and my family! I want to learn about anything that takes my interest simply by watching/listening and trying! That is the freedom we are meant to have and THAT is the only way of life that will make a healthy human being! Untill these great societies of ours recognizes these basic human needs whe will continue to circle the drain and more and more people will grow ravenous as these needs continue to go unsatisfied untill eventually it will all collapse in chaos and people are FORCED to live in those ways simply to survive and to rebuild, just like our ancestors.

I would advise you to do some breathing exercises. They Help. Drink a lot of water. Begin your day with a slow pace. Study the benefits of cold showers for your condition. Try to join team sports like football or what ever.

Wishing you the best.

I feel the same. I'm just so tired. No sappy stoey here. I just think I am ready to die now.

Hi friend..I do not care either..I have no one in my life that does not want something off me..Thier motives to help me are never truly altruistic.All I want to do is get my health better but I am never given much opportunity. I know from reading others issues it helps with your own..I hope things work out..If you bring things back to basics it always seems to help me..excercise..food..mental stimulus.

Hi,

I'm not going to sugarcoat. Here is the truth based on my experience: you are not going to find happiness or what you are looking for. I didn't. After reading all your posts, I see that you are a little similar to me in how you feel. But I'm in much worse situation. The older we get, the worse it gets.

I have searched every option, and found no solution. I think it is in genes. Depression will stay till we are breathing. So based on my experience, there is no way to get out of this. The only things I found that would take me, for few hours or short time, out of this miserable situation are the no-no stuff that knocks one out. Life is meaningless, boring, depressive, and unfair.

Hi,

I'm not going to sugarcoat. Here is the truth based on my experience: there is NO ANSWER. you are not going to find happiness or what you are looking for. I didn't. After reading all your posts, I see that you are a little similar to me in how you feel. But I'm in much worse situation. The older we get, the worse it gets.

I have searched every option, and found no solution. I think it is in genes. "Depression" or this miserable feeling will stay until we are breathing. So based on my experience, there is no way to get out of this. The only things I found that would take me, for few hours or short time, out of this miserable situation are the no-no stuff that knocks one out. Life is meaningless, boring, depressive, and unfair.

Ok

Hope you are still with us..an i mean us...The people that suffer fron clinical depression..

Now I know I am about to open a can of worms here but .....feeling down or feeling "blue" isin't depression.

Each person ...is different and unique ...and almost always has a "straw that broke the camel's back"

At the beginning of 2016 I met someone and fell in love with her.  The year has been the best of my miserable life.  In December an old boyfriend arrived uninvited at the door and her reaction to him disturbed me in the sense that she was obviously not over this previous relationship.

Later in December her 33 year old daughter who lives a distance away started verbally and emotionally abusing her mother.  This developed to the point where my partner was completely traumatised by the constant abuse.  

I suggested, as did other friends and family, that the daughter get help from a professional.  My partner seemed reluctant to admit that her daughter may have a mental issue but eventually suggested to her that she would go to where she lives and help her to get the help she needs.  Eventually that is what happened.

My story in all of this is that I have been divorced three times previously and had numerous relationships - all fairly short (around a year).  Five of those ended as a result of a child, albeit they were all adults, and over the years I have felt more and more useless as a partner.  I have always been banned from interfering.

I am now living with my eldest son and his partner which is hardly ideal but it is a roof over my head.  I cannot imaging going on like this and since I have had all sorts of health issues myself for which cardio and chest investigations have been done without any result I really cannot see any reason myself staying on this earth for any longer.

It is as if my time here is spent and I wish something would happen to end it all.  I do not have the courage to try suicide.

I am very angry about how this last relationship ended as there was nothing we could do about it.  I feel totally dead inside.

Feel much the same but you know what, the problem is that there's no solution but miracle or death and I believe that the second one is more likely. I don't wanna sound like I'm too gloomy and pessimistic, no not at all, but There comes a point in life or at least in my life that you .....

I pretty much feel the same. I am just tired of these little unfortunate events that happen to me everyday. Like a si oke task (steps a to b), something will just happen and the task would be complicated (making it steps a to e). get me? and seeing good things happen to bad people. I have been a victim of some of them. I tried to help soneone and she gets away with my money. My family treat me as others bec I am highly introverted. And friends who are just there when they need you and during good times. I try to be positive and optimistic but now I am just tired.So tired. No hope left in me.

Tired is something I now a lot about. Caring too much is tiring as is thinking too much and then not caring. Everything i have read here is the same as what I feel and have gone through also. People leave i feel lost alone and just plain tired have little or no feeling for anything and jusmp onto diff things at the drop of a hat

I feel for you i really do. check out Athur Janov primal scream no, not a self help book it's real and cuts to the bone of why we feel the way we do..but alas nothing worked CBT NLP midfulness etc nothing at all, I am a consultant and quit my role i left my long term partner he wasn't that bothered really. I lost my dad and i am floating in my head like some wind that is just passing through

So i know what it feels like alone lost tired - not a great thing to be huh

Easy on yourself and just let it be

I just want to say that, yes, I HAVE NO GOOD REASON and I am depressed.  I have been depressed since age 18 as I can remember...it's just how I am...I have no good "excuse" and that can make it feel worse because your pain feels unjustified and that feel shameful.  I don't know why some people are like this (like us) but you are not alone.  I am sorry for your pain.  Truly.