I'm tired of life, with little reason, not dramatic - just 'done'...
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I'm not even sure I have depression, I think this may just be 'me'.
I have always been pretty useless socially, but have had a normal upbringing, no horrible experiences, have gone through education fine and even got jobs but I've never enjoyed life, never really cared and normally feel like I'm not really worth anything and, inevitably enventually, will become a burden.
I'm not going to be dramatic and say I'm going to end it, it sounds so pathetic (no offence intended to anyone) but I have thoughts of 'going' or even dreams that I could die 'blamelessly' thorugh accident or illness. Selfish I know.
I have a cycle. Get job, put on confident easy going persona, get physically tired from doing that, lose energy to maintain job, focus on negative, leave job in some form (fired/quit). Friends are much the same, play easy going fun, can't keep it up, lose or push them away. Relationships, get attracted to ones who need help, help them in anyway I can, get to a point where I feel I am no more use so should go as they'd be ultimately better off.
So, currently I've quit my job as a teacher, couldn't take it - always something to improve and with my way of thinking that just sounds like constantly someone telling you you're useless (and it backing up your own thoughts anyway) but even though I liked aspects of my job I don't think I had a passion like I see in others. I felt I'd let everyone down so disappeared, my partner/ parents got me through immediate days after my sudden departure from work and saw Doc who was nice enough - put me on medication which seemed to do very little - even after a few months. In fact it only had negative side effects so about three weeks ago I stopped taking them completely. I also started seeing a CBT person about three/four session ago but this feels like it's doing nothing at all either, we talk, I'm honest as I can be but there is some element of being 'public' and putting on that face/ jokey responses.
I dip between a wish to not be around that is forever there and seems to be backed up with wholly logical reasons that people genuinely struggle to refute to absolutely crashing panic attacks/ given up when my 'theories' are proved.
I know this sounds odd, but I don't even have the will to get 'better', largely because I don't think I can. I am just 'me'. I am negative, boring and even if it is all just selffullfillng profecies - it's still me who has done that. I'm not blaming life, or others or anything else.
A lot of the posts I read on here seem to have good reason; PTS, loss, finances etc - does anyone have no 'good' reason?
I just feel I'm never going to be happy, I am soon to be much a burden on those around me (my gf) and that, in the long run, it'd be better for all if I just went. I know my family and gf love me - but time heals, life would get better and people move on. In the long run I'm sure it wouldn't effect my family and 100% sure my gf would be better off.
Not sure if there is an answer for this, just writing. I'm not angry, I'm not hurt, I'm not even sad as such, I'm just tired...
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Guest rsjg
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Ohh I read the first sentence and was like...exactly! That's me. No sob stories just tired, well this post is old but I sure hope to hear from you, I'm soooo curious coz u described me so much in that it's almost creepy. A first. I've so many questions, where, how are you? what did you do? Do you still feel that way? I mean... I might be you in another life... 😳
rsjg
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Asking as the original poster, would it be possible for a moderator to 'lock' this thread?
I can see it perhaps serves some purpose for people to read it and it has somewhat struck a chord with large numbers of people, but I do worry it maybe dilutes people's pleas for help or guidance when they post under a, what is it now, five year old post?
I am happy to reply to personal messages, as I have done recently, but with the belief I am wholly unqualified to do so. I have no answers, limited insight but do listen. I have read every post.
There are so many good, qualified and wiser people than myself that I do fear this discussion thread has perhaps served its purpose and is now more harm than good?
rsjg
no80755 rsjg
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Hello esteemed teacher, I know that it has been a long time since your letter, but it may have meaning, when I saw what you wrote, I was looking for the reason for our feeling lonely and why, I felt hopeful that I am not the only one who feels lonely and this feeling, this means That this experience really passes on all human beings, so I want you to rest assured that you are not alone and there is always someone who loves you, hope is on the earth, but we are the ones who are ignorant of its value and the value of ourselves, even though you were sad and wanting to die, but there is a glimmer of hope inside you and You did not feel it in your depth, it prevents you from doing that because you still love life and desire it, but you did not know how to deal with it, I know that there are many things and other recurring but this is what makes us human, you don’t have to give up easily just put this in your mind, Light, safety and peace. This is what you are looking for, but it will really come to you if you strive for it. At the end, every year and you are fine, 2021 New Years.
robyn0 rsjg
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I can completely relate to what u wrote; I'm living w/my 91 yr old dad & have v.few friends . If I didn't have friends on Social Media I would most likely shrivel up & die from feeling isolated ( though I'n get utterly sick of virtual friendships alot of the time) I generally dislike people anyway , especially now that everyone is acting like your a potential plague carrier( I rarely go anywhere so I doubt I am) I thought about killing myself since I don't see things improving for me.
sergiojgs rsjg
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Hi there, hope you are doing better, i just saw this post and is as close as it can get to how i am feeling for the past 2 years, i keep going beacause i have a son but now he is 8 and it will be easier for my family to look after him. I have a nice family but i cant remember the last time i had the will to live, i tried man, i can get jobs, i was able to graduate in civil engineering, working for 5 years, good salary and all but i feel like my soul left this body a long time ago, Looking back my life was never easy or hard, i work since i was 15 and never was with out a job for more than 3 months. I dont know.
Sorry for the grammar i am not from us.
levi93536 rsjg
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totally in the same boat. I had a successful career with many wonderful years. I have a good job now. I have a family. I have enough money to exist. so why am I so down and tired? I recently spent 4 days in bed. I had a break at work and all I did was sleep.
Then when I'm home, I see all the things that need to be done, laundry, dishes, basic domestic chores, and I have nothing for them, no energy or will to do anything.
While that isn't real good, the same feelings are there with the people in my home. I don't really want to do anything or even spend time with them. it's not that there is someone I want to spend time with, but I just want to go away and hide from everything and everyone. I often feel guilty for not doing things. it seems like a vicious cycle.
edward59583 rsjg
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mann,I hear ya,I dont know how old your post is but covid,isolation,I caretake my disabled mom that is 88 .I was always physically fit at 58 and just got friggin neuropathy and can barely walk.Been in my home for 5 months,no phone calls.I do feel like you most of the time,and I just shake my head and cry!I feel like you,dont fit.The only difference between me and you is I always have a glimmer of hope that keeps me alive.Maybe tomorrow night I will hit a nice singles night and get laid!!Lol.keep the faith because it is only what you think and it's not real.I try it's not easy
jesus27892 rsjg
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Hello there
I came across to your post surfing for an entry of "wanting to end life without feeling depressed". I totally understand the place you are standing on right now as myself had had the same vision of this life, some people would say how much they've suffered and such but isn't about asking for an answer or help like someone else has stated here (don't mean to be rude) but simple people live simple life trying to be loved, accepted or seen; after all they still believe to be what they have been told and they search for this thing called happiness but oh how little they know how week they are still using the same terms they have read on a book. This life itself makes no sense at all and everything we have learnt is a lie, nothing is real everyone is using excuses and that's what makes this life so exhausting to the point that I refuse to take part of it, you know i always had this same thinking since I was a kid but I thought that life will eventually make sense as I grew older but guess what? never did so I travel and travel, trying to find the truth but no one really knows where their head is; its really annoying to see how they believe in politics, economic, relationships and even religion.
I honestly believed/hoped Id be death by now but I am still around; at my 40's look my best, lean and muscular, have a job that i always want it and I provide everything for myself, I don't lie, i don't take advantage of others and i have lived a moral life. I am so tented to take the leap and the only thing that holds me back is the fear of not being sure that once i am death I will be totally gone,
doubting rsjg
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rsjg,
there is so much of your post that I get, I really do. Wish I had a solution but I don't. At the very least, offer some encouragement, but I can't.
I have no right to feel how I do, I know that, but it is what it is, I am what I am.
You say that you're not angry, hurt, sad. I'm not sure that I really [feel] anything. As you say, "I'm just tired", No anger, no malice envy, nothing. Just tired of it all.
I look around at other people's lives, this world, society, people going about their daily lives, and I wonder, why do they keep going? What [is] the point?
All my life, I'm in my sixties now, I've never traveled or strayed far from my home town , I've been nowhere, done nothing and [seen] nothing of note and yet, I feel as though I've seen enough, done enough, and ultimately [had] enough.
I'm at an age now where I could easily fall prey to some awful age-related illness and that scares me.
People say get help, I don't [want] help, I just want out. Why can't people see that? How do you explain to those who will not listen?
I wish you luck rsgj I really do.