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I might have genital herpes

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Pringlefood
Pringlefood

After having sex with someone I'm seeing the other day I began to get the symptoms of thrush; itching, white odorlous discharge etc.i bought an oral pill but the next day the itching became unbearable so I went to see the nurse. She examined me and said I may have genital herpes, she said there was a tiny cut down below, she took a swab and I am awaiting results. I am absolutely mortified, I cannot stop thinking about it and the fact I don't know where I got it from and that I may have passed it to this person I really like, I can't bear to even think about telling him, I keep crying and don't know what to do, I don't want to go to but can't tell my friends why, I am really struggling with this even though the results aren't back yet I just have such a bad feeling.

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  • Audrey4321
    Audrey4321 Pringlefood

    Posted

    Wait for your results but genitalia herpes is the same as having a cold sore, it just had a worse stigma against it. Plus how do you not know this guy gave it to you? You cannot know who gave it to who. But you need to tell him that since sleeping with him youuve had this. He will also need to be tested but he may be a carrier and just never of had an outbreak.
    • Pringlefood
      Pringlefood Audrey4321

      Posted

      I know but I just feel so ashamed and dirty. The nurse said to have this conversation with him but to wait for results incase she is wrong, but I don't think she is. I've been constantly reading about it for the past 2 days since I've been to the doctors, I have refrained from sex since I've been to the doctors but if I see him I won't know what to tell him. Is it 100% that I could have passed this to him if it was me that had it? I can't even bring myself to go out tonight as I just feel disgusting.

    • Audrey4321
      Audrey4321 Pringlefood

      Posted

      Maybe just lay low until you know your results. When I first had signs of and STI I 100% knew that it was herpes. But I didn't have a small cut I had blisters all over, they were so itchy and painful and it actually made me really unwell, I had a horrendous cold and sweats. So there is still a chance you don't have it. Even if you do and this guy doesn't have it you may not have given it to him. But he may be the one who gave it to you. You can't ever know. If you do have it you do need to tell him and say you think he gave it to you and he needs to go get a blood test. If he doesn't have it it's up to him wether he wants to carry on in a relationship, but you can't be offended if he doesn't, you'll find there are plenty of people that will.

    • Pringlefood
      Pringlefood Audrey4321

      Posted

      I am going to. The symptoms seem to be gone now, I've seen him everyday since I went to the doctors Wednesday but been refraining from sex, I could suggest using a condom but I still don't want to risk passing just incase he doesn't have it. I just constantly try and find new information about it and cannot put my mind at ease.

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