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I need help with my anxiety in my relationship

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sarah24553
sarah24553

My anxiety is getting the better of me but I want to gain some advice on this. 

I asked my boyfriend last night why hes so private eith his phone. He has always been a private person ever since I've known him. Even with things like facebook. He said to me that he doesn't want issues evolving over messages read the wrong way. Not just by me but by other people too. Say if he talks to a girl thats a friend or something. I understand that completely.  He also said his ex gf snooped and always asked him who he was texting.

do you think these are valid points? How can i just trust him.

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  • Wings_of_the_Pegasus
    Wings_of_the_Pegasus sarah24553

    Posted

    Simple question do you let him go through your phone?
    • hope4cure
      hope4cure Wings_of_the_Pegasus

      Posted

      That's a good point. But going thru someone's phone and using it r two different things. But that's the biggest issue with phones and snooping in today's society. Trust is not snooping ... Snooping is betrayal of trust..if u need to snoop in the first place it's time to rethink the relationship.
  • hope4cure
    hope4cure sarah24553

    Posted

    Sarah.. Drop him he is hiding something. Would u do that to him. No.. That's so protective that he may be exposed for things he may have hidden. 

    He's not trustworthy. U really want this in UR relationship always naming at u?

    if he can't share he not honest..

  • kay56561
    kay56561 sarah24553

    Posted

    this is really hard because while you feel he is hiding things he is also entitled to his privacy. but I totally understand why you feel the way you do. I am currently single after a relationship ended when I found out he was cheating and had been for months. I knew the password for his phone but never looked becsuse never thought he would do that. in hindsight now all the signs were there but I didnt see. its a truly horrible situation to be in the feeling that a partner is hiding something can drive you crazy.  its easy to say drop him but that denta your trusts becsuse you never know. 

    my honest suggestion is speak to him tell him how you feel and if you are worried explain why and how its affecting yo. if he loves you are cares about you he will accept a proper conversation discussing it and do his best to alleviate your fears and to me this doesnt involve him showing you his phone. he needs to do this by talking to you showing you he cares xx

  • dave37586
    dave37586 sarah24553

    Posted

    I used to do the same thing just to avoid an argument,  nothin shuts be hidden from on e another, apart from Xmas presents lol, I see his point he doesn't want you concerned but if he thinks it would concern you then maybe he should trust the fact you don't mind.
    • hope4cure
      hope4cure dave37586

      Posted

      It's basically hiding secrets.. Guarding is suspicious.. Ita an excuse to say trying to avoid a argument .. If there is nothing to hide then it's a open and honest relationship. Think before u speak ..think before u text... Speak / text reasonably and honestly there should be no issue.. Once that's done trust is not a issue..
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