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Why do I panic when I think that someone likes me? Growing up, I never had any traumatic experiences, but I remember when I was little I had a huge crush on this one guy and he broke my heart 2 times. I'm not sure if it is causing this. Is there a phobia for this, and how should I treat it?
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bytheseaside selena59043
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Hi. I don't really know if it's a phobia or a disorder of some sort, I'm not a psychologist, but it does sound related to a fear of being hurt due to a relationship. If that's the case then it could be quite common. But as for actual panicking I don't think that part is common.
selena59043 bytheseaside
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Well, even though I do panic, I don't get to the point where I start to cry. I just get very nauseous in the stomach and feel like I want to leave.
bytheseaside selena59043
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Yes, that's quite panicky. Because I think most people would be flattered to know someone had a crush on them. Might be worth looking into further if you wish to overcome it.
Bethany89 selena59043
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I have actually had similar issues in the past. One time in particular, I was out with my friend and she brought her cousin, who I had met once before. During that time, she wanted to go get her nails done and leave me with him to see a movie or something. This made be extremely uncomfortable. I'm pretty sure she was trying to set us up, but I hadn't been told about it and they could see the fear on my face later on in the day. They decided to take me home and took offense believing I didn't trust them. In reality, I was terrified that he seemed interested in me and I was being left alone with somebody I barely knew. (He also tried to teach me how to drive when I didn't have a permit and had a hard time taking no for an answer- that scared me too)
Anyway, I'm currently in a relationship that blossomed from a friendship. I never entirely got over the fear of somebody I don't know well being interested in me, but I found somebody I was already close to. Perhaps you just need time, and there is nothing wrong with telling somebody if you ate uncomfortable being hit on. If they can't respect that, they probably aren't somebody you want to be around much anyway.
Sorry it was so long, but your post resonated with me.