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gary49544
gary49544

My wife has made me leave my family home and our children because she said she was unhappy. I have since found out that she was having an affair. I'm totally devastated because I still love her and want to be with her and my family but she has made it very clear she doesnt want me. I feel like just ending my life and my pain but am aware how this will devastate my kids. I really cant see a way forward though. I'm really really struggling my mental health has dipped I have lost load of weight in last few weeks.

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 gary49544

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    Gary I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It must be so difficult for you. do you have anyone to talk to? Family? Friends? It’s very hard to get through this alone.

    if not, I would suggest that you speak with a counselor because they see patients every day going through the same sort of thing. They know how to help. You can even do it online virtually. I do that once a week and it really helps a lot! there are also many churches that offer counseling.

    right Now everything is very raw for you. your emotions are probably all over the place and it’s very painful.

    Believe me, I have been through that myself. I have three kids but I had to think of them first and get some help for myself so that I can be there for my children and be strong for them.

    Please don’t ever consider taking your life because like you said your children would be devastated and it would last and affect them for the rest of their lives! children have a way of blaming themselves when things go wrong. That would be terrible.

    I don’t care how bad my situation is, those kids needed me then more than ever! they needed to hear that everything will be OK.

    That’s why I suggested counseling for you so you can get back on the right track. Of course it’ll take a little time but it will definitely be worth it when you get to the point of being able to move on.

    Remember, you will always have your kids!

    Unfortunately in this life there are no guarantees. things happen that suddenly surprise us.

    One thing I learned is that it’s not the situation we are in, but it’s what we do about it and what our attitude is.

    of course you will go through a grieving process but trust me, it won’t last forever! You will be able to move on eventually. When this happened to me, I was really upset at first but as time went on I realized that the person I was married to really had some deep down issues that devastated the whole family. It was all for the best. And I am stronger because of this. And super close to my grown kids.

    you Will get through this! No matter what is going on, wake up with an attitude of gratitude! Think of everything that you are grateful for. And be positive for your children. Please feel free to continue messaging on this site because there’s a lot of caring people here who would love to help too! ❤

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