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I suddenly feel that I don't love my girlfriend anymore?

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Stevie01
Stevie01

I am a 21 year old male and i would like to share my story about my situation, In the past 10 months, I had

a huge crush on an amazing girl which is now my girlfriend thankfully, I kept away from confessing to her for 9 months. I always been around her and i was always talking day and night, we would act like we were a couple, we check on each other everyday, hangout with each other like its a date and i thought that we had the mutual feeling, basically the idea of seeing her makes me over the moon but i don't know what kept me of not confessing my feelings for her for the last 9 months and on my birthday at the fourth of October, I finally confessed my feelings to her about my love and she told me she have the same feeling back!

I think my body at this moment was loose, I didn't know what was going but from my happiness i couldn't believe but I was afraid a bit of making this decision as I kept postponing it for a lot, but I said that I should man up and its time now to share everything with the love of my life. I would like to share also that I have some symptoms of social anxiety, i am anxious in 1 on 1 social situations i keep overthinking of what i would do or talk about and it keeps me so confused, I have this anxiety with some of friends, family and even my girlfriend, but I would tell myself when i see my girlfriend that everything okay and i can be normal and not anxious because when we text or call i am not that anxious and i be myself with her but in social situation i am not that one but i keep telling myself that i could be myself just like when we are texting or calling.

Then later in like 3-4 days from 4th October, I had this thoughts that i don't love her and i am numb around her and scared and i have lost feelings for her and experienced some anxiety attacks and i want to breakup with her, but the thing is i don't want to breakup with her she is the most beautiful thing that happened to me, and when i get these thoughts i feel so depressed and ashamed of myself and now i am so depressed and i cant do anything and every time i see her i get this bad thoughts that i should breakup with her and i can't hangout with her or even text or call each other because i feel that i cant listen to her and i am so irritated, The idea of we hanging out or talking scares me as I am afraid of what we will talk about and that happens because of my anxiety, I cant do anything about it and i am questioning everything with her. I cry everyday and my depression is real bad and i have a chest tightness and a stomach ache everyday, i don't find anything that enjoys me, i cant study, i cant talk with my friends or have any fun or even hangout, i don't know what to do but the only thing i want to do is not to breakup with her i cant imagine my life without her but my mind keep telling me that this would help me get better but i don't want to do this decision.

Did I really lost my feelings after all of this time of not confessing to her and when I finally confess I became like this?

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 Stevie01

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    people go through all kinds of emotions when they are in relationships. Especially when they are young as you are.

    Sounds like you are definitely overthinking everything. And that happens in people who have anxiety. There’s nothing wrong with you it’s just anxiety is getting in the way and causing you to have these thoughts.

    I would highly recommend that you speak with a counselor who can really help you with this. they see people every day with issues like yours. And they know how to help. you would feel so much more relaxed.

    Try not to get overly anxious about this because everything will work out the way it is supposed to. when you feel anxious, take some long slow deep breaths and remind yourself that everything will work out Whether you stay together with her or not. take care you’re gonna be fine❤

  • sairam41470
    sairam41470 Stevie01

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    hi stevie! according to me ! u have to accept ur anxieties and insecurities and focus more on love ! man u have a gf! here there are many who are waiting for love including me! just give it all man! focus on love ! come up with new ideas for her! not just winding in ur negative thoughs ! have fun man

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