I think I have herpes and need an opinion

Hi Sarah,

It's scary but yes. It sounds like you might have herpes if there was a sore. 

I didn't beleieve It when I got it. I had two sores. Looked nothing like anything online. I went to one doctor who had no idea then I went to see another and she did the swab tests which came back hsv2 positive. Even then I found it hard to believe. 

My new partner didn't have symptoms and didn't even know he had it. For about a week I thought it was just a yeast infection. I was uncomfortable and had a fair amount of discharge, but then as the two sores dried out, two more appeared. 

If it turns out to be herpes, yes initially the news is devastating. I was horrified and felt disgusted with myself. I hadn't slept around and I was so incredibly in love with this boy. He had been checked as had I for STIs but no where routinely checks for herpes in their full check up (I was shocked at this news). It was hard at first. I was so upset I didn't know if I could continue being with him. We were both totally weirded out by the situation. 

In time, we both got over it a little. It only took a couple of weeks to go from me crying in bed feeling like the world was over to me taking life by the horns and sticking my middle finger up to the virus. Stay strong. It does get better. 

Good pieces of advice to follow if it is herpes :

If you get recurrent outbreaks. Do not suffer in silence. I had 3 outbreaks in my first month in September this year. I went back to the docs as asked to be put on a continuous dose of aciclovir. I now take 400mg twice a day and haven't had an outbreak since. Out of sight out of mind hey. 

Piece of advice number two - this is just a cold score virus. You should tell people you have it before you sleep together. If telling someone you have herpes freaks you out, just say you are prone to coldsores / have the coldsore virus and it is possible the can contract it either up or downstairs via sex or oral.

Piece of advice number three - do not let herpes take control of your life. Herpes does not define you in any way. I know I almost let it when I found out. But now I am just the same as I was before, I don't even think about my herpes on most days now and I only contracted it a couple of months ago. 

Piece of advice number 4 - if you are struggling, talk to someone about it. I used these forums but also told my family. I found out my bro gets coldsores. 50% of my family has herpes I found out. This made me feel normal again. Herpes is so not a big deal. I also told some of my friends I got a coldsore (didn't feel comfortable telling them I had genital herp at first). Now we have a laugh about it and it just felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. A

Good luck, stay strong and keep smiling ! It does get better ! I promise! 

Hi, Sara! Descriptions of your symptoms look like on herpes symptoms! But you can to ask the doctor to do analyses via blood (IFA) on herpes (1 and 2 type). In Russia such analisys done 1or two days. After that you will know have your herpes or no!

Success to you!

 

It sounds a bit like herpes, what with the sores and pain while urinating. If it is, just remember to stay strong. I just turned 20 and I found out that I had it this summer. I've only slept with 2 different people in my life and the one that I was with at the time had the same breakout as me at the exact same time so it was hard to say whom gave it to whom. Naturally, I was upset and embarrassed, but you will get over it. I've had 2 outbreaks since, nothing nearly as awful as the first one and like 2r35506 said I rarely even think about it anymore and it's only been a few months. After telling people, you can obviously still have a sex life and I still have sex with the man I'm with with no problems at all since I'm on suppressives. They're just cold sores and it's good to have a few Friends and family members to talk about it with. Good luck! I sincerely hope it's something else!

It sounds a bit like herpes, what with the sores and pain while urinating. If it is, just remember to stay strong. I just turned 20 and I found out that I had it this summer. I've only slept with 2 different people in my life and the one that I was with at the time had the same breakout as me at the exact same time so it was hard to say whom gave it to whom. Naturally, I was upset and embarrassed, but you will get over it. I've had 2 outbreaks since, nothing nearly as awful as the first one and like 2r35506 said I rarely even think about it anymore and it's only been a few months. After telling people, you can obviously still have a sex life and I still have sex with the man I'm with with no problems at all since I'm on suppressives. They're just cold sores and it's good to have a few Friends and family members to talk about it with. Good luck! I sincerely hope it's something else!

Thank you so much for your input. Just an update, I used a bacterial cream last night and this morning the sore was healing already.the yellowish film of skin was almost gone. No scabing. No burning at all to the sore when I urinate. From what I think I know, antibiotic medication wont work on viruses. I have hope that its not herpes and the 85% chance that its not, is looking very well.