I told my BF I gave him herpes.
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Hey there.
My BF and I are both 23 and I have been diagnosed with hsv2 in 2012 I've had it for 3 years and in December I met this guy. We hit it off so well and fell in love instantly. We made love the first night we met. And were unprotected. We've used condoms a couple times but were not religious about them. We have been together for 3 months and been unprotected for most of that time. I love this man so much and the fact that I didn't tell him was killing me. We have moved in together moved to another state together even and have joint everything accounts. He is my soulmate. So you can imagine what a monster I felt like for not telling him. Last night I finally got the nerve to tell him. His reaction was what I expected. He was devastated that I did this to him. Couldn't look at me and wouldn't touch me. But he didn't run or tell me to get out or tell me he hated me and never wants to see me again. But he was irate. I asked him if he loves me and he said yes and was crying and I asked him if he would want to try to work it out and still build something and he said he doesn't know. If he leaves me I know I will have deserved it but I love him with everything that I am and he is such a good man and so good to me he doesn't deserve this.
I know this isn't really a question but I am killing myself over this and I really need some guidance. How u can help him and how I can continue to make this work. So if anyone could please shed some light or offer advice on the matter it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
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cartercali knj-143
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I was on both sides of the tracks. I was the one that got infected and wasn't told and I was the one that was having sex and never told my boyfriend I had herpes .. Thankfully after 3 tests it still comes back negative .. How ? I don't know .
I was having an active breakout during our sexual encounter one time also .
There is really nothing you can do except give them time but also alert them that the disease isn't deadly it's like a skin disease that comes and goes .
Sad to say that you guys are kind of moving too fast also . 3 months and you did all of this ??
Can you really get too know someone and all they are about in 3 months ..
The pain can eat you alive having to confess to someone that you have herpes you are just so scared that they will desert you and throw what you told them back in your face .
My current / ex I don't know what to call it
He knows about me and my disease and he is acceptive of it .
What is so painful about your story is you didn't even try to do anything to half way keep him safe from contracting the disease ..
Do you guys talk ?? You didn't have any outbreaks these last few months ? How often do you get them ?
My main question for you now is if you seen that you was involved with someone physically why didn't you try to get suppressive medicine..
How do you know he is infected ? Did he get a test ?
knj-143 cartercali
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And if by some god given miracle that he doesn't, what we can do to keep it that way
knj-143 cartercali
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cartercali knj-143
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That is what reduces the shedding and the spread of the virus
Especially since you said you guys don't like using condoms and all that ..
Have you talked to him about the disease and everything ? Did he have any questions ?
Chick100 knj-143
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knj-143 Chick100
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The last act of love I knew was to just tell him. And accept whatever happens after that.
FelizCastus knj-143
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alexs55 knj-143
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FelizCastus Chick100
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I totally get the fear of disclosing and why some people do not, but I do not get the repeated lack of preventative measures as well, once known or suspected, especially with gHSV-2 and when it's so easy to go on the meds and/or use a condom. That is selfish, not love, and is the reason why some of us are regrettably on this forum in the first place, which I believe also answers your question to Alex.
Chick100 FelizCastus
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FelizCastus Chick100
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Agree that there's bad advice on the Internet, too, as well as from some doctors. As a result, when I want answers, I always look to official sources and research studies! STI and STD are used pretty interchangeably. Both have equal stigma, imo, and I think herpes can be classified as either, since it is an infection that can also cause disease.
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