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I used to love my boyfriend so much, and suddenly no feelings at all?

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roma97031
roma97031

Me and my boyfriend been dating 2 years, he is lovely, handsome, faithful, he really loves me, and so am i, i loved him so so so much, dreaming about out future together and many things.. I passed through family issues, my dad left the house and didnt come back, i got fired from my job, i was really depressed until i found my self feeling guilty and not loving my boyfriend anymore, no feeelings no nothing, im really scared i dont wanna loose him, i want our love life back, i cant see myself with anyone else at all. Please help( i went to a doc he gave me medecines, but all i feel is ite getting worse)

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  • katehippy
    katehippy roma97031

    Posted

    Angel, it's normal for you to feel this way. You have had bad things happen in your life, and now they are affecting your relationship. You are very strong and have been to the doctors. This is the first step. The medicine will take a while to work, so be patient, and make sure your boyfriend knows how hard you are trying and how much you love him.

    All best wishes xx

    • katehippy
      katehippy roma97031

      Posted

      Just one more thing, sweetheart, it's okay for you to feel unworthy of your boyfriend's love at this time and it is only a symptom of your illness. If you keep medication and doctor in your life you will be okay. You are ill bit not forever, yes?! 

      Lots of love and strength xx 

       

  • janet62590
    janet62590 roma97031

    Posted

    We may struggle and face many challenges but that doesn't mean we need to end up our relationship with others. Talk to him and he will hear you out.

    • roma97031
      roma97031 janet62590

      Posted

      Yes i told him everything im passing through, i really feel guilty and always telling him he deserves someone better than me, but he said he wont leave me and will stay by my side forever, im really having depression about this situation more now, because i never had the thinking of leaving him, and i really cant live without him, so confusing
  • wayne1962
    wayne1962 roma97031

    Posted

    Hi Roma - sorry to read you are suffering. Your illness is undermining the comfort and safety of your relationship. It convinces us that we are unworthy, a burden, and can cause to to sabotage our own life and connections. If you are uncomfortable or upset with the way the doc is handling things get another one. The meds you have been prescribed will take 3-6 weeks to work. The dosage may need tweaking occasionally, or perhaps a new med if this one is not doing well. It's a process, it takes time, but what is the alternative? You are doing the sensible thing getting help - don't let any bad experiences (we've all had them) stop you pursuing the path to a calmer, happier, healthier you. It's not just about "fixing" anything, it's about understanding the illness, how it individually affects you, how to recognise any triggers and what to do about them.

    Meanwhile, if that lovely, handsome, faithful, loving man of yours refuses to leave you and insists on being together forever, well, I guess you might just as well bite the bullet and let him, even if everyone else around you is pea green with envy.

    • roma97031
      roma97031 wayne1962

      Posted

      Thank you i have been taking the med for 3 weeks now, and our relationship is baxk to normalsmile im becoming better everyday. Thank you a lot
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