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I've been anxious and worrysome can someone help and give advice?

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anigandhiboss
anigandhiboss

Hi, i'm a 14 1/2 year old guy. So for like 2 weeks i've been very worried and running away from problems and i'm very anxious about everything. it all started when hurricane harvey hit and my streets got flooded pretty bad(but luckily no water inside our house) i've just been scared of something happening to me and my family ever since that day. i have this bump on the back of my head which is like a bone and is in the middle of the back of my head. my doctor says it's fine and that's normal it's just a lymph node but my home is sticking out, and i've had it for 7 months and it hasn't grown and that relaxed me a lot, but i'm still a bit worried about it. i'm starting to feel better and becoming like my old carefree self again because my parents help a lot. but still sometimes i get anxious and scared that something will happen to my family and i can't protect them. how do i stop this. how can i become care free and less worried again. please someone help

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 anigandhiboss

    Posted

     What happens is when we have anxiety, our mind wants to go to the negative. But you can turn that around so you have peace of mind. 

     I know life can be scary sometimes but keep in mind that when we worry about the future it's basically a waste of time because the future does not even exist yet so it's just a concept. "What if"  thinking is what I mean. What of thinking is not based on any fact. All we can do is live in the present moment and do our best in this life. Don't do  what I did which was waste over 20 years worrying about what if this what if that. I can't get back any of those days. 

     try to think more positive like being thankful that everybody in your family is OK from the hurricane.  Take one day at a time and don't think into the future because it's just not an existing at this point. The only thing that is real is today and the past is memories. 

     enjoy your life and your family. If you are really struggling with this, see if your parents can set you up with a counselor to talk to. It really helps to vent to somebody in person and they can help you manage this better.  They see this every single day because anxiety is the number one reason people talk to counselors. Your school may even have  someone you can talk to. They have to keep all of your information private because that is the law so don't worry about that. But talk to your parents if you need some support. 

     another thing that helps is staying busy because when you think about negative things too much it's not healthy and then fear sets in. Do Things you enjoy that make you laugh and smile! 

     stay away from negative things like sad news stories etc. 

     you will be fine! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Get some support if you need it. Remember, worry does no good at all .  It makes you feel poorly and sad. It helps in no way .  Enjoy your family! 

    ??????😁

    • anigandhiboss
      anigandhiboss jan34534

      Posted

      thank you very much!! i've been doing great i have my ups and downs but whenever i think positive it really helps. thank you for the advice!

  • cfiddy79
    cfiddy79 anigandhiboss

    Posted

    I am sorry you are feeling this way. I recall being your age and having anxiety. It was rough! One thing I have learned since that time is relaxation techniques. You can learn little tricks to calm yourself down and turn off your racing thoughts. You can set a daily routine where you take time to relax. Dedicate 10 minutes solely to yourself and turning off all the worrisome or negative thought. It is awesome that your family is supportive. My mom and my sister have always been a great support to me, and I have been dealing with panic for 25 years! Don't worry though, for the majority of that time I have been just fine. There are ups and downs, of course, but therapy helped me learn to cope so well. If you can, maybe ask to see a therapist. There are a ton of apps and books out there to help you learn relaxation exercises and stop the racing thoughts.

    • anigandhiboss
      anigandhiboss cfiddy79

      Posted

      thank you!! my dad also said to do some relaxation techniques and they really helped i've been doing better but i have my ups and downs thank you for the help!!

  • Aspinan
    Aspinan anigandhiboss

    Posted

    Hi there, it sounds like you are on top of your anxiety abd the trauma of the hurricane is fading away, your concern for your family shows you have a very caring nature which is a credit to you the World needs more people like you, the down side is that your allowing yourself to ruminate on a future that hasn't happened and scaring yourself which isn't healthy so a balance is needed, I tend to do the same as you but I do tell myself that if anything happens I will be able to deal with it then.

    If your care free self is coming back then you can just start to let those worries go, they will fade away.

    Neil 

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