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I've been depressed for a long time

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fran27
fran27

I've been depressed for a long time and nothing ever changes. It feels like there is always something that has to go wrong to make me feel worse than I already am. I feel like everyone hates me. I have no-one to talk to and no-one takes me seriously. I've previously said that I want to take my own life but no-one cared and it was made to look like I was doing it just for attention. I have a low sex drive and it's made things bad between me and my partner. I don't know what I can do anymore because there isn't a way out. Just when I think things may be improving they just all get so much worse again.

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  • evergreen
    evergreen fran27

    Posted

    Fran, I am so sorry you are feeling like this. Have you been to your doctor?
    • fran27
      fran27 evergreen

      Posted

      No. I've been putting it off for a long time because I know I won't taken seriously, which is why I've not confided in anyone about this. No-one is bothered which is why I've joined this site.
    • evergreen
      evergreen fran27

      Posted

      It is part of the depression to feel that no one is bothered. It is not true that your GP would not take you seriously, but you have to tell them exactly how you are feeling so they can help you. You should also tell them your fears about not being taken seriously.
    • fran27
      fran27 evergreen

      Posted

      Not being believed and people treating me differently
    • evergreen
      evergreen fran27

      Posted

      Well your GP would certainly believe you. That is a fact. They know how difficult it is for people suffering from depression to come and tell them what is happening. They don't do it for fun. Then he or she can start helping you. There is a test on here to see whether it is likely you are depressed. Yoou can google 'depression test' and choose the NHS one. This is the test your GP will use on you to help diagnose your condition. They will then treat you accordingly. But if you try out the test yourself first, you will be able to see how high you score. Good luck.
  • anne240
    anne240 fran27

    Posted

    Hello Fran.  Some anti depressants can affect your sex drive, so maybe that is one of the problems. 

    When we have depression we do think negatively.  I too do that.  We think nobody likes us or understands us.  I hated myself and thought I was a burden, but although I have had depression for a very long time, I am seeing things in a bit better light now.  I realise a lot of what I was thinking was all in my head.  I know that is  no consolation, but I just want you to know that most people with depression feel like you do.

    If the anti depressants you are on are no helping with your depression, perhaps a change to another brand might help.  We all react differently to anti depressants, and if you find one that suits you, then hopefully you will feel less depressed. 

    Sorry if I am not much help, but I hope you continue to come here and talk to us.  I find it does help to know there are people here who understand how we are feeling. 

    I am so sorry your family and friends are not supportive, because that helps a great deal.  Does your partner realise how you are?  Is he not supportive and understanding?  If you said you felt suicidal, did they not take you to a doctor, or support you in some way?  If your partner and family know you have depression then surely they would have taken you seriously?  Have a sit down with your partner and tell him exactly how you are feeling.  Talk to your family and friends and ask for support.  You cannot do this alone.

    I am here to listen, but wish I could help more.

    • fran27
      fran27 anne240

      Posted

      I was out with my partner yesterday and I was really off and quiet and I could tell that he knew something was wrong. He said I can talk to him if I want but I know I'm bugging him and I don't want to be a burden. I'm scared to tell the managers at work because they'll think I'm only saying it because I don't want to be let go after my three month probation is up. A lot of people have picked up on the fact that I've been acting off lately and I would love to be honest about it but I can't.
    • leah89345
      leah89345 fran27

      Posted

      Hi Fran,

      I was like this with friends/work and boyfriend. The best thing I did was be honest and go to my GP.

      I made myself worse by ignoring depression and not helping myself so in the end me and my boyfriend broke up and I had to quit work because I couldn't face going in because of how horrible I always felt

      I'd really recommend going to the GP and taking the first step to making yourself better, and it's good that your boyfriend is supportive and is willing to listen

      I know it's easy to say but worry about your health more than worrying about what everyone else thinks because your health matters more

      Good luck, I hope things get better for you soon :-)

    • anne240
      anne240 fran27

      Posted

      Leah has given you some good advice Fran.  We know how very difficult it is to tell other people how we feel.  You feel they will not understsand and will judge you.  A lot of people see mental health problems as a stigma, but honestly it is no different to any other illness.  I know how difficult it is to talk to a doctor, but they are trained in this.  they see many people in the course of a week with depression and other mental health problems. 

      You say you find it difficult to be honest with your partner.  Most of us feel we are a burden to others, but he won't know why you are acting like you are unless you tell him.  He might think there is something wrong with your relationship.  I think you could be honest with him if you really care for him.  I know it is difficult. 

      If you really feel you cannot confide in people close to you, or people at work, then who will give you the support you need?  Do what Leah says, try and pluck up courage to talk to a doctor. 

      You csannot fight depression without some form of support.  It is a mountain to climb if you try to do it alone.

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