I've been depressed for a week straight. just diagnosed with GH. feel like I'm losing myself.

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Hi everyone .. I am struggling to come to grips with having GH. I was just diagnosed 4 days ago and it's been the hardest four days of my life. I haven't been able to leave my house or even go to work. I feel as if my life is coming to an end and I'm petrified of my love life. I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now. We have a beautiful house together and love eachother greatly. I came right out and told him the day I was diagnosed and he didn't hesitate to say "I'll always love you this won't change anything between us" but I'm having the hardest time believing him. I'm with holding almost all my affection because I believe our sex life is now going to suffer. I don't know how I contracted this, I'm 23 and have only been with two men in my entire life. Both of which were long term relationships. I'm a complete disaster I don't know what to do please, someone give me advice. I'm falling apart.

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    It's ok u can get through this! I was just like u..relax and take it day by day...u are not alone!!

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    Things will get better. I struggled hard with it at the beginning too. Still have my bad days but be thankful for what you have. For me now the scariest thing is thinking about a future partner and having to tell them. You've already done that part and your partner sounds very supportive.

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      I've come to realize that not a lot of people are as lucky as I am having a supportive partner that's willing to still love me as if this has never happened. I was just fearful he'd stop thinking I'm attractive and wouldn't want to touch me anymore. I've learned that I have hsv1 and that it's nearly a skin condition rather then a sti and it's helping me cope a little bit better

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    Believe him. Open up to his love. If either of you question fidelity, talk about it. Lots of people incl myself have a boyfriend who loves regardless.
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      its just the fear of one day being rejected because of this. I feared I'd be less attractive to him, but I'm coping and I'm trying to be as open as I can because I know this man loves me and I do think I'm very lucky to have someone in my life that's understanding. Not a lot of people are now a days

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      I'm happy for you that you have an understanding partner as well. It's comforting

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    It sounds like you've got a good partner. If he says he still loves you no matter what, then believe him. Sending you positive vibes! Stay strong and keep hoping for a better tomorrow. 

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      Thank you so much. The support from everyone on this forum is just amazing, it's gotten a lot easier for me and I've accepted it. It's actually brought him and I closer believe it or not

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      I wish that happened to my boyfriend and I. After I found out that he gave it to me, he ran away and stopped communicating with me. But I am happy for you. Just remember, we are here for YOU.
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      That is awful sad I'm so sorry he did that to you. Luckily mine was understanding enough that we don't know how I contracted it because hsv1 especially can go without any symptoms even orally and be passed on genitally. I appreciate everyone's support so much.

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      Oh yeah. Once we accept our diagnosis and realize that we are going to be the same people, everything will fall into place.

      And thanks for the concern. I knew there was a chance that he would leave, but I wish he didn't so I didn't have to go through the hardships alone. But now I have this forum and I'm pretty satisfied.

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    HSV is a hard thing to come to grips with but when you do you realize what you are dealing with you realize it is what it is. It really is NOT that big of a deal even though we know it is a huge deal in our lives. You become stronger in knowing what you are dealing with because you realize it's limitations, which really aren't that limiting, in the big scheme of things THIS IS NOT a big deal. (Life or Death, intense, etc.)

    My advice is to soak up as much knowledge as you can about the virus.

    Stay true ?

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    I'm in a dark place right now as well, just got diagnosed with HSV-2 and have been hiding out at home for the past 4 days. I wanted to ask if you were getting better? I just cant seem to find the "light at the end of the tunnel." It's so great that you have a supportive partner, and that is definitely something to look up tosmile

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      I honestly am , I started looking at it in a different light. It won't kill me, my life isn't over and my boyfriend loves me so it's a great form of support and helped me get over it very quickly. I hope you're able to find the light at the end of the tunnel soon, it's so tough at first but you'll over come this soon enough.

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      I can't wait to be where you're at-I'm afraid to go to the bathroom at this point, urinating is actually excruciating! How long was it for you before the urinating pain subsided?

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      Honestly the pain lasted me a good week, after the antiviral kicked in it got easier everyday. My best suggestion to you is to take a nice warm bath with salt in it nothing else and let yourself soak. That's what helped heal the sores and it made it a lot better. My doctor also prescribed me lidocaine cream which made everything numb so I was able to walk and just be comfortable. I thought I'd be in this funk a lot longer but I snapped out of it quickly because my doctor convinced me it's just a skin condition that's unfortunately been associated with sex so people frown upon it

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      I've read urine burning can be reduced by being sure to drink lots of water. Most people are dehydrated. We should be drinking minimum of half our weight in oz per day... 150lb person should drink 75 oz daily.

      Hope u feel better soon!

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      I havn't gotten my culture test back but my gyno diagnosed me with HSV-2, and it seems about right. Tried the lidocaine tonight though! Definitely helped a little during urination. Thank you! I know, the stigma about it, I think, is what puts me in such a dark place sometimes.

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      I'm always so afraid to go to the bathroom, even if I drink water, I think any type of liquid that goes over those sores, hurt so much.

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      That's exactly what did it for me. I never knew much about it except what I assumed which was "it's dirty, it makes you dirty, it's an sti" etc. I felt like I'd be alone forever. But my doctor diagnosed me with HSV1 after she did a full culture and I kind of felt better about it in a way because I won't get awful outbreaks. My initial outbreak was so painful though and I literally slept for a whole week and cried in bed, I was an awful depressed mess. That's why I came to this forum because it honestly taught me a lot. I've read other people's experiences with it and actually saw that it's more common then you think and it doesn't make you dirty at all!!

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      The lidocaine cream does work great though I'm glad it helped you out a bit. Try the warm bath with salt and it will help heal your blisters, I took two of them and that's actually what cleared mine up.

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      I wish I could. My shower doesn't have a bath option, so it makes it a little hard!

      That's actually where I am right now though, staying in bed , going on day 4 now, might leave the house today for some grocery shopping we'll seesmile

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      You should. Go do things that make you feel good about yourself. Try to not over think and obsess over it. That's what I did. Stayed in bed being a wreck and obsessing over it. I kept looking at it and googling it and drove myself insane

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      Just wondering, did you ever experience your labia sticking together during the healing process? I'm starting to get worried and not sure if this is natural!

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      No thankfully not. My outbreak was around my butt which was super painful too 😒 I have read that that can happen though so I'd say it's normal. Have you tried anything to relief the pain?

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      I'm heading to the gyno tomorrow to check it out, I'm too much of a wuss to try to seperate such a tender area haha, sorry for being TMI! Has your OB healed?!

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      There are quite a few anti-viral oils out there you mix with water. Have felt SOOO MUCH relief!!! Oil of Oregano, Garlic, Cayenne, & Licorice are amazing and you can even mix some Thyme in and these are all anti-vitals & do an amazing job. Myself i am only takin them two weeks at a time. HOPE this helps in your relief. If you have questions research the herbs before you buy them and ask when you go to buy because they are all in the pharmacology books & they will help but you're only recommended to ingest them for so long.

      Well wishes ?

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