I've found out that I have herpes type 2, Im scared that If i tell my boyfriend he will leave me

Hi Hun, sorry to hear you have this. I understand the feeling of fear of rejection. As hard as it is you need to tell him, specially if there's risk of giving it to him. Even if you use condoms due to shedding he could still be at risk, less off risk but still tiny chance of passing it on. He's more likely to be understanding, most guys are, you get the odd few but they tend to be uneducated on it. There's even a chance he could of gave it to you.

Just take a deep breath and pick the right moment, my advice when you do tell him keep calm and strong. You can do it

I know how scary it is, I was diagnosed a month ago and I had to tell my boyfriend. We've only been together 8 months I was so scared he would leave me.

However he was very accepting, and honestly telling him made me feel Soo much better. Telling him is important because he deserves to know, but having someone to talk to about it is important too.

I thought that our sex life would be ruined but it's not. Yes we have taken things slow since I was diagnosed but things are slowly going back to normal. 😊

Make sure he's informed abou herpes & let him know there are plenty of ways to keep it from spreading to him.

Good luck! He will probably surprise you wit how supportive he is & you'll feel better to get it off your chest 😊

First, be sure that you definitely have Type 2. Were you actually tested, and if so, how? Did your doctor or test results specifically say "Type 2"? Because some people who are diagnosed with just "genital herpes" assume that genitals = Type 2, which is not true. Can also be Type 1.

Second, if really Type 2, condoms don't fully protect (only by about 50%), but oral sex should be okay, as Type 2 rarely infects the mouth. Not impossible, though, and not much of an issue should that occur (would protect against genital infection, in fact).

Avoid all kinds of sex whenever you are having an outbreak, as that is an especially infectious time. If you are not sure when that is, whenever you observe tingling, a sore/tear or a feeling that something is "different" down there, etc.

As hard as it is to tell, your bf has a right to know and should be tested. If he is negative and chooses to stay, you should consider daily suppressive therapy to further reduce possible transmission. If he is positive, then no hsv precautions required.

hey hun.. how are you holding up ? 

i promise you i went through this exact situation !!

my boyfriend and i have been together going on 4 years in june.. and the fear of telling him set in , even more so the fear that he couldve contracted it scared me even more especially since i was and have been the only female he has been with.. 

that was what was tearing me up inside and keeping this from him tore me up even more .. i would randomly be crying about it all.. i was a distraught mess .. to this day i dont even know why he still wants to be with me.. he deserve so much better .,.. i  dont understand quite well how to handle it ,..and whats safe and whats not safe ..

and the way he found out wasnt too fair .. thats how scared i was to tell him .  i can honestly say that if it doesnt work out between us i dont see me in the dating scene confessing that i have herpes to anyone.. i mean no one else knows but my boyfriend i didnt even tell my daddy yet..

i mean the days do get easier , and you can just accept it as a skin condition that comes and goes.. and if your boyfriend really loves you , he will accept it .. what type do you have ?

how do you know he didnt give it to you ? are your outbreaks bad ?