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I've made a mess

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Ravenwood
Ravenwood

Well, folks, I think I have screwed up.  And screwed up badly.  My mother, my sister and her husband came for Thanksgiving.  I was so excited.  But it was a disaster.  I didn't pace myself at all.  My mother and sister fought.  The four days they were here was a loud, stressfull mess.  After everyone left for their respective homes, I came home and crashed.  I threw an epic fit of crying because I was in so much pain and completely over-sensoried.  Now the problem I have is that I am so much sicker since Thanksgiving.  I have about half the energy I had before, I hurt more, and I get angry on a whim.  I can't stand it.  I have been resting and pacing myself since Thanksgiving, but I am no where close to my pre-Thanksgiving level.  Do you guys think I really messed myself up?  Will I get better, or is this my new normal?  I am now nearly bed-bound.  Does anyone have any suggestions?  If not, I'll take digital hugs.  Thanks!

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  • casiodss
    casiodss Ravenwood

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    Well, here is my hug for you. Dont worry, it will all go the same way as it came, you will see. Rest and change do some activity for yourself. Hope you get better soon...
  • amber20574
    amber20574 Ravenwood

    Posted

    Hey!

    Just seen your post and thought I should reply as I completely understand how you're feeling. When I realise I have overdone it and I feel far weaker with much worse symptoms than ever before I have this horrible fear that I will never return to where I was and feel like it's all my fault. But from my experience I have found that with rest I am able to get back to where I was. Although where I was is nowhere near 'normal' it is still far more tolerable than being entirely bed bound. I hate that we have no control over how situations affect us, a stressful few days can leave us paying for it for weeks and people just don't understand that. I'd say just try not to overthink about how you will feel next week or next month and just focus on the here and now, although that is easier said than done. I try to remember the motto 'every day in every way' it just reminds me to take each day as it comes and do the best I can for my body each day and the rest will follow. The worry of whether you will get back to where you were certainly won't help you do that, so I'd say get some really good rest and try to destress. I find that guided meditation whilst lying on a bed does help, if you focus all of your attention on the words that are being said you tend to forget about your situation even if just for a moment and I find it's a useful way to escape everything.

    Hope this helps and really hope you get back to where you were before the set back, have faith that you will smile x

  • pam_87693
    pam_87693 Ravenwood

    Posted

    Poor you yes I know exactly how you feel! I really do, same problems but mine was a son who should have known better! Why he is a doctor!!! Whether it's Chrimas, Thanksgiving Easter or any other time if your ill you don't need the stress of a public holiday. I'm talking from bitter experience as actually I DO know what I have, clearly my son, who is a Consultant surgeon hasn't a clue! If you don't have the markers you don't have it!!! Everyone in this group whether its ME/CFS/or pain knows how that impacts on your life. STOP REST FORGET! I KNOW ITS DIFFICULT but you certainly won't make life better for yourself if you don't 
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