I want to give up for the sake on my sanity Labrum Surgery 3week s post surgery Q abt a retair
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So i had surgery 3 weeks ago and ive been in the sling and obviously cant do nothing and know just because the sling gets removed at 6weeks im not going to be the same i was before thats the thing though before the surgery i was fine i had so much ROM my tear i later found out was 7-10:30 and only required 2 anchors and i knew the tear was pretty minimal considering i could play basketball shoot with arm lift weights the only reason i even got an mri was because it clicked after a traumatic injury but then it healed but it was still torn and the surgeon basically persuaded me to get it repaired and this was my first boy if i only knew what i signed up for. Mentally the recovery only 3 weeks out has been so bad, I feel like a shell of myself and honestly at this point want to crash out and just return to my life before (Drive,Go Out,Go back to school,Smoke, lay on my back and take this f*****g sling off) my mental is pure agony being that i just got out of a long relationship right before the surgery and now here i am alone in bed 24/7 regretting my choice of getting surgery realizing i didnt need it. So this makes me think if i just say screw it and probably tear it would it, wouldnt i just recover like i did when i first tore it, or would it be a worser tear that would cause more then jus the clicking because i went though surgery i dont know im not a surgeon but at this point my mind is convinced i should just do it but i dont by any means want to have surgery ever! so if it did retear i wouldnt go back in considering how ok i was before the surgery but im not sure if it would be the same like the first. what im basically saying is i so what if the repair gets reteared before it was repaired i was ok and strong in the gym and never bothered by it and at this point going through what sounds like 9-12 months of such a limited an contious cautious life sounds worse then jus having a failed repair if its not worse then tearing initially. This sounds super stupid im sure but this has destroyed my mental and at this point i'd rather di whats best for my mental, let me know what would happen, would it be the same, why i sound like a dumbass anything because everyone around could care less about my thoughts aborting this repair/recovery.
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richella_40978 caden01864
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dear caden,
i admit, its freakin rough going through recovery. does your doc have you doing ANY type of movement at all? can you take your arm out of the sling when you shower and at least let it hang down? anyway, i know the pain is incredible. im so sorry you are dealing with this. (i had 2 anchors and a spur a couple of years ago). all i can really tell you is to try and be patient. it could be that in the long run, you are better off for having this done. Im pretty sure i am much older than you so its easier for me to have patience. do everything the doc and physical therapists tell you. it will heal in time. promise. keep posting and let me know how you are doing. richie
nathan40178 caden01864
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Dude I was similiar to you. Although I had a tear I could still do things... But the shoulder would always hurt somewhat and my strength although decent was definitely worse than before... Anyways I had the surgery and oh my life, the pain was nothing like before... I had a new born baby at the time and my wife had to do it all on her own... I felt like an idiot... Felt like I should of put it off... But I know several people that feel like you and me... And I can say 8 months post surgery I can sleep on that side fully... Something I couldn't do even before surgery.
It still hurts in the cold and with certain movements but it's so much better.
You're in the verge of waking up mate and it being OK... I think after 4 or 5 weeks I was out of that dark place.
I was back upstairs in my own bed... I could hold my child.
The torment was surreal in those first several weeks.. I'm a physical guy so it really got me down. I was out of work for 8weeks too....
I feel your plight of a rship breakdown and all thst sadness, anxiety, mental growth you will be having is magnifying your feeling son the surgery. Mate just hold tight and I promise it will be OK. Keep moving that arm... Push through some pain so it heals quicker.
Don't do anything drastic... You won't heal as well as before. My shoulder didn't hurt like the surgery by any stretch of the imagination, even when I initially got the injury... Which was me holding a 42kg dumbell for a should press.. So 84kg total. I had done this weight many times.. But when I shot the weight upwards it went slightly backwards and my shoulder snapped up good... Sounded like I jumped in a pit full of crisp packets.
The surgery cleans and shaves your tendons etc anchors etc... Its a big surgery. .. Expect 2 yrs of healing. After 6months you will be as able as ever though...if you keep the physio up... Physio is super important. I still get pains in my shoulder, bicep and back now... But once I warmed up its OK.
Side note - I get pains in bicep to elbow still and my rear delt had just stopped hurting now.
It takes time mate and it sux... But one day you will be glad you had it. My main reason was age... As we get older those tears can get so bad that you lose real mobility and as you get older, you won't heal as well from surgery.
Dude stick in there and post your progress... I found speaking to people on here a real help getting through those first several weeks
Nath
sandra91776 caden01864
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Ill only add that these surgeries do take a mental toll in you
Doctors dont seem to address the fact that you get depressed and anxious wondering if you will ever be the same
People who have never experienced a broken bone or surgery repair just dint get it
They just say "it will get better"
So its quite normal to feel depressed
My advice now that you had the surgery follow doctors orders Heal
mike1997 caden01864
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hi...
I had 2 shoulder surgeries. It was rough and yes it makes you very anxious. It is very difficult especially if you are active and can't do as much as before. I still went for walks though. AND I did my exercises. Even the day of surgery, they said you are supposed to take your arm out of the sling ONLY to do your codmans and whatever other exercises they told you to do.
Are you doing your exercises? They should have verbally instructed you, shown you your exercises as well as a handout with detailed instructions.
ALSO, if your insurance permits it there is a machine that you can use that will manipulate your arm.
I can't imagine you doing nothing for 6 weeks. It would result in a very stiff if not frozen shoulder. As it is, after your shoulder surgery when you come out of the sling in 3-6 weeks, your arm will be stiff and sore and weak. This is normal. But to help combat the stiffness there are exercises you can do.
You need to talk to your doctor/surgeon/physical therapist, tell them how you feel and ask about exercises you can safely do. That's a positive way of addressing the situation. Also, go for walks, talk to people, you can still use your other arm, be grateful you are on the mend and everyday you are getting stronger and better.
The decision to have a repair as you did was a wise choice to prevent the tear from becoming larger and even spreading to other tendons. Don't regret it. After all what is a few week, or even months compared to a lifetime of pain, disability, that you are avoiding now that you are healing and getting back to normal.
You have a good chance of regaining alot of strength and range of motion, perhaps close to 100%. Everyone is different, and react differently, but it is hard. We've been through it and this forum is for support, so hang in there and respond and keep on sharing it's healthy to do so.