I was hit by a drunk driver my husband was killed I was in a coma for weeks & now my son is a drunk!
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I am tough and determined to change the way alcoholics process their behavios or controlled by the cravings of alcohol. Every thought even while not drinking is connected to the cravings. As you may have seen in the many responses to my posts in this thread. The brain is always thinking always driven by one thing before all others.
Some posts on this thread have expressed that I am too harsh on others who complain or beg for a way to stop drinking. Then in the next breath state that they can controll their drinking or are ""just"" binge drinkers...when I see that I see a lot of denial leading to more madness. I have seen more erratic behaviors spiraling downwards to a very dark & lonely, painful place no one would ever want to be in.
I don't sugar coat anything and state my experiences and my truths. Niceties is not conviencing any alcoholic to stop. Or aligning with their sympathies & excuses,nor pushing or forcing or bullying or by a lightening strike from a higher belief above. It's gotta come from within the individual to find all the pain buried in their very soul that's drives the anxiety,or the pain to self medicate. Only then enter rehab until sobriety becomes a reality. I speak in my reality to many on this thread because is it my pain & my reality to share. My story could open one heart addicted to substance abuse to find peace and recovery. That's what its all about. I really don't care how they get there just as long as the do.
In reality it's all the drinking stories from the beginning of social drinkers to the end of the madness. It's all the same basic issue addiction and denial.
I was hit by a drunk driver who almost killed me and killed my husband, who was only 29 years old. Hit by a teen at a stop sign just 2 blocks from my home. The teen was on the way home from a night of drinking. I struggled for over a year thru rehab to learn how to walk, talk,read and write. I lost everything my home my job & my health. That's the impact of a drunk driver .
I was in a coma for three weeks.Still years later suffer daily physically from damage to my body from that crushing accident many years ago.
I joined MADD, ( Mothers Against Drunk Drivers).. Later years after the accident I remarried. Supported MADD with my boys who volunteered thru their high school years. I was 3 months pregnant and lost the baby and my partner at the time of the accident. I Never would have imagined that I would be a mother of the very thing I despised. A drunk behind the wheel. I would have never imagined in a million years that my son would be one of those drunk drivers in the future. He has not had a liscence for over 20 years thank GOD. He still continues to drive.....even though he has no vehicle.
Yes my story is heartbreaking and unfortunately true. I have tried to shake some posters on this alcoholics string verbally with my story. Even an earthquake cannot shake them from the drink or denial. There is a huge denial reaction which I always expect. Or simply ignoring my posts. Never could they possibility be ""that"" out of control. This story could very well end up to be one their stories with the same heartbreaking end. Some alcoholics find sobriety,most never do.
Some alcoholics believe they can control or cut down on their drinking and will never end up like my son. Like most on this string. I always come back with,"" ADD YET ""..on the end of these sentences ..I am not a black out drunk ...or I have never been in jail....or I have never killed someone, or I never lost my job....or lost my family and home...YET !
For some reason the so called "controll thinking" alcoholics have is it's all fingered out down to the color of Wiskey vs Vodka and alcohol content of beer to lower toxic withdrawl. What they don't realize is the harsh reality that my son thought the exact same way many years ago. My beautiful son...my beautiful child....I will always love him there is no shame in becoming addicted. The shame is finding sobriety and throwing it away.
My question is how long does a life lost in drinking, the mind lost to drinking , lost in the behaviors of drinking & lost to severe mental illness ...what are people with addictions waiting for ? Is it to take over and leave them with no where to turn ? It will and it does? But why deny the chance for a life for a drink?
I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE A HONEST ANSWER. I really want to help change how alcoholics r teaated and the social stigma .. We can do it together.
PEACE, LUV & LAUGHTER
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