Ibs and relationships?

I feel your pain I can be in mid-conversation with my significant other and have to run out of the room hoping that I make it to the toilet in time I feel so rude and hate that I have to do that but I have to or I'll have an accident. Lately at work I've been having trouble with gas and the urgency to have to go all of the sudden I'm a cosmetologist so I'm standing right behind someone doing their hair and there's nothing like being in mid-conversation or just about to put a foil in and say excuse me I have to run to the bathroom. I was just diagnosed with IBS I thought it was just me the way my body works something I would have to deal with thought I was going to eventually end up wearing diapers. I start a new anti spasm medication tomorrow morning I'll let you know how it goes.

IBS completely killed my relationship. It was great for 2 and a half years then For the next 2 I spent most of in the loo missing weddings, christenings etc and I can't blame her but in the end she had just had enough and fully understandable as I was an utter nightmare nearly all the time. We could not plan to go anywhere or do anything. Away for a romantic getaway I thought I did well to get there but then I broke loo and spent the evening looking for a staff member to fix. Romantic weekend it was not and I was crying inside for I knew I had f***ed up yet another weekend. How many chances would I get. The answer was many but many was never going to be enough and she knew it. She did the right thing for both our sakes as I reached a point where I was just so overwhelmed with guilt. I did not find this place until after we broke up. Had I found it before like you have I believe I could have saved that relationship but it was not to be.

This is something I worry about too as the only person who knows the full extent of my IBS is my mum. I think honesty is the best policy. If they really care about you then they'll understand and just want to help.

Hi, I've been dealing with IBS D for about 20yrs and I was with my hubby when it all started up...lots of rough times feeling ill both physically and emotionally, due mostly to the IBS. I can attest to the fact that stress does make the IBS D worse. I thought it over many times and I concluded each time, even after breaks of up to 1 yr, that I needed and wanted the reassurance of someone there, even if they were the source of the stress. So after a number of separations and a divorce and finally just living together, we are trying something a little different...that is....for us, I have more "me/alone" time. We have agreed upon acceptable behaviors. He is very understanding, but a pretty negative person and that behavior really sets off my stress and in turn the IBS D. So he's working on that. Several times over the last 15 yrs I had to really give it some serious thought...was being alone better or being with him, even though he created stress due to his overall negative verbal responses and expressions. We've talked about it to a limited degree (he's not a talker) and finally came to an agreement as to what was going to be acceptable and not create stress. For me that boiled down to his trying to be a more positive person and more alone time for me. We'll see how it goes. Both of us are hopeful this will be a workable agreement and will create less stress for me and better health. I think anyone with IBS C or D must analyze all their relationships and see where the stress is and work at finding a resolution. Remember your stress can be from work or family or friends or even your home. What ever is the source, it's up to you to work on what can be a way to resolve the stress. If you don't work on it, I can guarantee, your health and stress levels are only going to get worse to the point you will be totally dependant on your current situation and then you will be really stuck. So my suggestion, is work on fixing the stress now while you still can.