If someone can't seem to be around alcohol and not drink it...is that a problem?

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I noticed that my bf drinks a lot by my standards.  The first time I noticed was when he had a pint of liquor...got out of bed with me and when I woke up the pint of liquor was gone.  He stayed up and drank a whole pint alone in the middle of the night.  Then when he came to my home to visit over the course of 3 visits he emptied my liquor bottles.  Liquor that had been in my home for months or even years.  When I brought it all to his attention he had an attitude and basically said he didn't have a problem and that he drinks like that when he's around me because it's a "vacation".  I do drink but I don't drink that much and in addition to that he KNOWS how I feel about over drinking amongst my friends and family members as alcoholism runs in my family.

He even told me he took a pint and put it on his desk at work and was told he couldn't have that there and then went on to tell me that his boss said he could in fact drink at work he just can't have the bottle on his desk.  When I brought up the fact that I thought his drinking could be a problem he told me that he made that whole story up and that he was joking...  what?

Basically, it's a long distance relationship and if he is a heavy drinker that's a deal breaker for me.  I don't wan't him sneaking and drinking and lying about it so basically I'm trying to rule out the problem now.  

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    As it's a British forum, I'll convert that to half a litre of spirits.

    I would say yes, he has an issue with alcohol. Most people who drink a lot of spirits do. It is not so bad if it is wine or beer, especially beer.

    People tend to drink spirits for the kick rather than the taste. How much he drinks, who knows, you'd have to physically be around him for a period to see it for yourself.

    He had an attitude, because drinkers know themselves that they drink too much, but hate people pointing it out to them what they already know.

    It's a tough one, I think your gut is already telling you something, but then another part of you is saying give it a chance. All I can say, is that if you try and confont him with it, he is likely to get defensive, which could manest itself in anger.

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    Seriously, Kim..you are not an alcoholic...and I don't care what he SAYS...he IS...sneaking liquor in the middle of the night?, Bringing bottles to his desk at work...OMG....please think more of yourself...

    If you think this is the best you can do....I will tell you straight up...it is NOT.

    If you need a more active website...contact me PM and I will give you one.

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    Are you in the US? Worst part is drinking at work and that is allowed..surely not, contracts to be signed. My last two jobs 24 yrs I would have lost my job. Robin
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