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If you can be helpful and let me know how your family and partner deal with depression

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jay_babes
jay_babes

Hi if its not too much trouble and if any one could tell me how your family and if you have a partner deal with your illness , if you do not mind sharing , i know its hard for family and friends and your partner to cope with what your going through , because its not them , i just wondering do you have a good support system, be nice to know how other people cope as well , it would be great to know i am not alone, so hard to explain to people who do not suffer depression anxiety panic attacks and other terrible things that have happened in my life , but i do have a great family , a brilliant partner but the more it goes on i think they find it hard to understand, finding this forum has been a god send but i would love to hear back about their support system, because a lot of the time i feel so useless , alone, and no one to turn to ,because i feel i am letting everyone down

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  • k80659
    k80659 jay_babes

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    Feeling you are letting people down is a very common symptom of this illness. It’s can also be a devastating vicious circle. 

    When I started on the tablets I hadn’t long started going out with someone. We had been friends for years though.  I told her not long after what was going on. She was amazing. Talking to her was one of the best things I did. Yeah she doesn’t always understand exactly how I’m feeling, but she understands that I am feeling something. We are married now and she has became even more of a confidante and support. She can also see if I’ve skipped a couple of days, something I do from time to time unfortunately when I’m getting down about a certain side effect or think that I don’t need the tablets anymore. She keeps an eye on my mood and has a kind word if she notices a difference. Ultimately she has been brilliant. I always think you should talk to your partner etc. They might not fully understand but if they love you they’ll want to try and at least want to help. 

    Hope you’ve had a good day. 

    • jay_babes
      jay_babes k80659

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      Thanks i know it is a vicious circle i used to be so full of life and joy and always got told what a great laugh i was but deep down i was hurting, i kept all my problems to myself which landed me in hospital, even though i got help from specialists i still found it hard to open up, i too fund a brilliant partner a lot younger than me, i thought he was too young to take on my problems but i wrong, he like you and your other half have been here for me, we do talk, but he knows it is professional help i need and it is going to take time, i am 54 now and just wish i could lead a normal and functioned life, but i am glad of this forum and the kind people who have been in touch with me , you are all great, i am happy for you keep up the good work , and you too have a lovely day
  • ida78235
    ida78235 jay_babes

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    Yea Jay. .I feel exactly the same. .but feel alone now because my depression has went on so long. .they think I'm coping. .as I try to keep upbeat. .but deep down I'm struggling. . I so sympathise with you. . God bless for now . .

    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      Hi ida so sorry to hear your struggling i know i am too i wish i could help you, are you getting any help, please let me know
    • ida78235
      ida78235 jay_babes

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      Hi Jay. . See my GP 2moro. .as my mood has dropped. . Stressed as I've ENT app next week as well for vertigo. .I've been waiting 6months for this app. .now I'm stressing more because of the depression. . Sorry for being all doom n gloom. .I'm on 100mgs sertraline. . God bless

  • laura36585
    laura36585 jay_babes

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    I tried to keep it all to myself for years and finally this time I have discovered that I shouldn’t have to hide it, I think hiding it has been one of the reasons I got so bad.  Now I share how I feel with my hubby and my kids who are both teenagers, they are a great support and it’s such a relief to just be honest about it all.   X
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes laura36585

      Posted

      So happy for you that you have a great support group , it really helps nothing worse then coping with it on your own, but some people do not have this , and its great they can come here and express how they feel , and hopefully get  the help they need , i hope more people read my story and realise they are not alone,
  • Rose21604
    Rose21604 jay_babes

    Posted

    I haven't told anyone i have depression or that im taking medication. I just cant bring myself to tell anyone.

    • jay_babes
      jay_babes Rose21604

      Posted

      Hi rose oh i really feel for you, its hard enough dealing with depression but not talking to anyone about it that is close to you cant be helping, are you close to your family, or do you have a best friend, or a partner, someone must see there is something wrong , or like me i covered it up for years, but in the end i landed in hospital, please you need to talk to someone and i promise you will feel so much better. take care and you can always talk to me, even in private if you do not feel comfortable to share, i will try my best to help you, you have made a start coming here on this forum, take care 
  • Rose21604
    Rose21604 jay_babes

    Posted

    Thanks for replying. I spent all my life supporting my mother with severe depression until she died. I dont feel i can ask my family to support me as they have been through enough. I guess i worry my children will get scared i will be like my mother as they saw me try and support her and it was hard. Its early days on medication and im not sure if its working as i dont feel any happier.
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes Rose21604

      Posted

      Hi rose i am sorry to hear about your mum but that does not mean you will end up like her she was probably a great person but there was not the help round that there is now, and that is why you had to support her, you said you have children but did not mention a partner, i do not know how old your children are, but for their sake you have to take care of yourself, and burying it is not going to help you or them, there is plenty of things you can do, you said you are on early days of medication that too might not be the right one for you, speak to your doctor, also there i alternative medication, counselling , talking therapy, and lots more, depression is a whole range of emotions, do you know why your mum was so depressed did she talk to you, if its anything like the old days no one talked bout their problems, but you need to open up it will make you feel a hole lot better, you have to address whats causing you to be unhappy, is it something deep rooted or life in general, if you still need my help i am here for you, take care
  • ida78235
    ida78235 jay_babes

    Posted

    Yea Jay. .I feel the same. .smile on the outside and dying inside. .I've a good family as well. .but this has went on for so long. .I feel ALONE and lonely. . Not coping great at all at mo. . Maybe need to up my dosage. .I don't know. .sorry for being so negative. . God bless

    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      Hi Ida sorry I have not been in touch having problems with my laptop email  you 3 tikes today and its packed up
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      never say sorry for being negative you are just saying how you feel , and being lonely is not a nice feeling I should know now I live in the country and do not do  the job I love
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      you can be in as room full of people and still feel lonely, I am glad you have a close family but that doesn't change how you feel because you probably do like telling how you feel because of how you mum was, but I am sure the would understand,

    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      I just done a whole page to you and my lap top wiped it out
    • jay_babes
      jay_babes ida78235

      Posted

      SORRY I am trying but this is driving me nuts and giving me a massive migraine I want to talk to you and have lots to say and this piece of rubbish wont let me ,  
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